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writes:hello everyone.i'm in need of a little help. i am currently in a relationship but i've recently found out my ex boyfriend has been doing drugs.we've not been together for about 2 and a half years now but i still worry about him and to think he'd do drugs, is just so out of his character.i don't know what to do or say to him, do i have any place to say anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm really not bothered anymore. i realise it's not my place & though he's my mate he won't change.
thanks anyway
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Well if he's a "friend", what would you do if any of your other friends got involved with drugs? I'm sure you'd say something, and if he's just a friend you should have no problem approaching him on this matter. Why don't you ask your boyfriend to speak to him since they get along so well.
Whatever you do, don't get wrapped up in his mess and try to "save" him. But for some reason I suspect you will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh my god i'm not at all!
i love my boyfriend
my ex is still my friend, & he gets on really well with my boyfriend.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 June 2010):
 This one's a tricky one. Your ex is someone you used to care about, and your motives are certainly pure enough. However, how would your current boyfriend feel if you got back in contact with your ex?
I'd leave him be. With all of the education and knowledge about drugs out there, I'm sure he already knows that what he is doing is bad for him and self-destructive without your saying something about it.
That being said, consider yourself very lucky that you're not WITH him now, or he'd be dragging you into the sewer along with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for that advice (: its just we remained friends so i didn't know whether i should say anything. thank you anyway (:
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (9 June 2010):
 You have a new boyfriend so I dont understand why you are still trying to be involved in your ex's life? Surely if you are in a new relationship then you have moved on, so why bother getting involved with something from the past?
I dont think you should say anything, it is not your place. It is his life, he is an adult I am assuming so he can do what he wants. He is not going to listen to an ex when you split up so long ago so there really is no point in getting involved with this.
Taking drugs is his own choice, no-one is forcing him therefore he is doing what he wants to do. Having you come meddling in his life after 2 and a half years is only going to make it worse - he will think you are the annoying ex that wont leave him alone and he will be more likely to carry on taking drugs just to spite you. Plus you might upset your boyfriend by getting involved with your ex again - it suggests you still have feelings for him.
So leave him alone on this one, let him mess up his own life if he wants to, he is the only one that can sort this mess so there is no point in getting involved. He is not your problem any more.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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