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30-35,
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writes:I would like peoples opinions on this situation please^^ thank you in advanceMy boyfriend and I had a big fight around two months ago. I have let this go now and accepted what happened but still get upset when he brings it up.A girl I had been talking to told me she had some major problems. She said this was because her boyfriend (of three days… c’mon) had broken up with her but still I was unsure about what to do so I asked my boyfriend to talk to her. I really appreciated his help, but I was jealous since he told her things he told me and it made me feel like he was reading from a script when he told me these things. (like compliments and nice things). He then decided he though she was making it up which is the most likely thing she is quite young at 12 and her stories seemed a bit far fetched. I then asked him to not talk to her on msn anymore since she added him and I didn’t see the point if she was lying and he didn’t even know her. He said this was fine and told me he had deleted her.A few days later, in the middle of a conversation asks me why this girl, lets call her Amy, thinks she is ugly because he thinks she is pretty. This hurt me slightly and I was already jealous of her. Then he told me he’d been talking to her. He wouldn’t tell me what they had talked about and when I asked Amy she also avoided the question.Basically he said sorry and that he understood why I was upset we made up and I’ve accepted that it happened and that he made a mistake.But then the brought it up and we fought again, because he said he hadn’t done anything wrong and that I was over reacting. He has asked me to stop speaking to some close friends and I have done that to him and this is the only person I’ve ever asked him not to speak to and he didn’t even know her. He told me he was worried about her and that she was more important than me getting jealous but he even said that he didn’t believe she was depressed she was just looking for attention.Do I have any right to be upset at what he did? I had moved on until he told me that he thought he was right to do that. We are back to normal now but I am wondering what other people would feel if this was them and if I’m out of order to be offended that he isn’t even sorry.
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reader, doctorlove  +, writes (6 December 2009):
You have a right to feel the way you do. This CHILD should not be a burden to you and your hubby. All this child wants is to feel like she has a safe haven. you need to talk to him and see if it would be possible to talk to both of them and tell them if she has no more problems with boys (she's to young to worry about them anyways.) that she has no need to talk to him anymore. He should learn to respect you and your decisions.
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