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writes:Do I have any right telling my boyfriend to stop talking with this girl that I feel uncomfortable with?This girl has only known my boyfriend for about a week and she has been talking very openly about how much she likes sex and been telling him some of her sexual fantasies. She's sent him two pictures of herself (not naked, but they were pictures of her with her boobs half out with something written on them) and has been asking my boyfriend for pictures.Do I just let this go and trust my boyfriend or do I say something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): there is a difference between telling your bf how uncomfortable this makes you and how you'd like him to stop talking to her, versus demanding that he stop. You don't have a right to demand who your bf can and can't talk to since you don't own him. All you can and should do is let him know how this makes you feel, and then leave it up to him to decide if he will continue talking to her or not. Hopefully he will decide to stop out of respect for you. if he doesn't then you've got bigger problems in your relationship than this other girl...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): Grab this man and say hey babe you want me to start sextexting my old boyfriend? If he says ya then you better drop this dork. He has now left earth and is heading toward another planet in a other galaxy. As they say shit happens. Good-lluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): I understand your position and have been there. Solved it by talking to him...and saying calmly and nicely...You know I think she is crossing some boundaries. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF A GUY SENT ME A PIC OF HUS ABS, OR HIS GENITALS AND TALK TO ME ABOUT HIS SEXSCAPADES? WOULD YOU BE CONFORTABLE WITH THAT?? And problem solved. I hopw he sees what you mean and how that would make you feel bad.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 May 2013):
 What does HE think about her behavior?
You can't forbid him from talking to her but you can express your concerns about her behavior.
The issue is NOT what SHE does but rather HOW your boyfriend REACTS and RESPONDS.
If a woman tried this with my husband, I'd laugh at her foolish attempts. Even if she had done it while we were dating because he would have laughed at her, or blown her off or ignored her.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (16 May 2013):
 Talk to him, and when you do ask him how he would feel if it was the other way round, a guy sending you pictures and talking about his sexual fantasies. That should open his eyes a bit, and from a guys point of view you definately have a right to be annoyed.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (16 May 2013):
 Hon, you need to speak to your bf - it sounds like the conversation has already moved over the boundaries and become inappropriate.
Your bf must be the one to tell this girl to back off that he is in a relationship.
You bf also has poor boundaries, and he should not be encouraging his girl, so he is the one you need to feel angry with.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (16 May 2013):
 Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Asked him if he handled it and how?
I used to have this same problem with my boyfriend, I was really insecure when we started dating and so I freaked out. He sat me down and calmly told me that he was with me and wants only me. He told me that he talked to the girl and explained to her that he isn't interested in her that way and if they are to become friends then she would have to stop because it's disrespectful.
I would talk to your boyfriend if you haven't already and ask him he knows about how uncomfortable you are and what he will do about it. Your guy should be able to handle this on his own.
Good luck!!!!!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (16 May 2013):
Trusting him is one thing, but the conversation has already become inappropriate and there's no reason you should put up with it if it makes you uncomfortable. Many people on here are just insecure, jealous people, but you have good reason to be unhappy with this girl.
There are certain times that you have to put your foot down and this is one of them.
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