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writes:Why is it so hard to stay faithful? It's almost as if I can't control it. Is it because I'm young maybe? I'm in a new relationship (I just got divorced after a year if that matters, so I was tied down) with a wonderful woman, she has everything I want in a partner and she is just great. We get along fine and everything, so there's no reason for me to stray away. But we only see each other every weekend (we live an hour and a half away). But during the week, and even when I'm with her, when we go out and stuff, I have to use every fiber of responsibility in my body not to talk to women and try to be with other women. When I'm with her I just try not to look. But there are so many women that I'm attracted to and it's just so hard to stay with one woman. I don't have any actual plans on cheating on her, there's no other woman. But I just know that I could get one and I guess that's what makes it worse? Especially during the Summer here at the beaches and boardwalks, out in town, dating sites etc. There's so much temptation lol. When I'm by myself or with my friends at the bar or something, I have to tell myself, "Don't talk to any women, you love 'My girl friends name', you don't need another woman" lol. Do I have a problem or my hormones running rampant or what lol?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Thanks a lot guys for your advice, I appreciate it, it wasn't harsh at all. I'm as much a realist or rationalist. Thanks you for not sugar coating it.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 August 2009):
 You don't have a hormonal problem, you have a maturity problem. Its called taking responsibility for your actions. Sounds to me like you will cheat if given the opportunity. Id suggest before you do so to cut things off with the female you are currently dating. You'll be doing the both of you a favor.
She wont have to be subjected to your behaviors(the mere fact you so cavalierly write your post indicates a willingness/desire to let yourself cave)
And this way you can go about your business guilt free. So spare her the heartache she is sure to incur until you grow up and learn self control. It's part of being an adult.
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