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36-40,
*ostman
writes:I've been in love with this girl i've known for about 5 years. For the past 5 years she has had a boyfriend. She has now been single for 4 months, and 2 months ago she asked me out. We've been dating now 2 months. Nothing has happened. And so i asked her 'what happening with us' and she said that shes not completly over her ex. And that shes not ready for another relationship yet. But she has said that she likes me and that she likes being with me, and she would like for something to happen in the future. What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): she is using you dude. ok.. if you want her (and i don't think you should, shes proven she's not that into you)... pretend you are always busy, do NOT return her calls until a few days later. in fact let the voice mail pick up... always. And for the love of pete do NOT, DO NOT, D O N O T make any weekend plans with her. make your self disappear on weekends. If she asks what you did, who with, etc... Keep it mysterious, say, "just out with a friend." She will be begging for you after a few weeks. I would not even bother with her though do you know how much scamper, um... i mean girls their are in the world? i mean 2 months and no sex. By the 3rd date, you should have had sex. THIRD!!!!! if this happens again (3 dates and nothing) ... move on!!!!! ALSO, i would bet my paycheck she is banging someone else on the side.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 March 2011):
If she's not over her ex, walk. Walk away from her and don't look back. Either you will find out you're a rebound, or at some point later she'll go back to him. Find a more stable, secure woman who has a clearer idea of what she wants in her life.
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (2 March 2011):
 I'm just one man but I say continue spending time with her and one day when she's ready she will tell you. It'll probably be spontaneous and you won't see it comin'. In the meantime, keep things light. If you're not able to do this, please be up front with her and let her know as nicely as possible because you never know what's down the road and you don't want to burn any bridges.
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (2 March 2011):
 I think right now you are just a stand in for her ex boyfriend. She likes your company and right now she prefers you as a friend. Maybe you should give her some space until she is really over him and ready to move on 'cause it really isn't fair on you. Give her some space for a while.
I hope this helps
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