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*im sam 2013
writes: well i like this guy at school but he likes my other friend and she is so much more popular then me. We always hang out with him and call him but he never notices me. I have told my friend that i like him and she has said cool over and over again. Next year at school they are planning to get together and be boyfriend girlfriend. my friend agreed and so did he but now she doesnt like him anymore and i asked her if they didnt go out next year if i could maybe try and have him but she said no. So what do i do listen and move on or do i follow him and try and make him notice me??? please any ansewers would be great!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): sounds like your friend wasn't interested in him until she knew you were, then she dumped him because she didn't really like him, and now she won't let you have him.
She doesn't want him and doesn't want you to have him either. I would seriously question your friendship because it doesn't sound that healthy to me.
Lose the guy, stop wasting your time because he clearly isn't interested at the moment. Have you thought about taking up a hobby or interest? This would be a great way to meet new people ((male and female), make new friends and boost your confidence. If you truly believed in who you are you wouldn't listen to your friend, nor would you hang around with someone who would take something you wanted away. She is the one who sounds jealous to me.
Good luck with your future ventures.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (3 August 2006):
 I think your friend is being very controlling and childish. She doesn't want this guy but she also won't let you have him! It's like a childs game! If you want to try and get this guy to notice you, you can, you don't need her permission. If she's a good friend, she would support whatever you did and if nothing has really happened between them two, she doesn't own him or you.
However, this could ruin the friendship and no guy is worth that, surely? If you want to keep her as a friend then don't go near him. There are rules about going for mates exes and stuff so if you want to keep things cool between you and your mate, stay away from him. If something did happen between them two, definitely stay away, he's off limits!!
All I can tell you to do is to ask yourslef, who is more important to you? If she is a good friend, she's better than any guy but if you care for him more than for her, go for it and get your man. You can't have your cake and eat it, I'm afraid. Good luck
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