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writes:There is a girl that I really like and have very strong feelings for. We have talked every night and have become very close. We have also hung out numerous times. One night I kissed her and she was completely on board. I like her and she likes me which is great. She doesn't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend because we're going to different schools next year. I honestly don't see the problem and think it could work. I have offered her solutions like hanging out on the weekends and stuff like that. I have been shot sown a bunch of times. She is really special to me and I would consider myself to be really lucky if I were her boyfriend. What do I do? Do I give up? Do I keep trying? How do I do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (11 August 2013):
You think it could work only because you’d rather be friends than nothing, or because you believe that if you spend enough time with her things will change. But in reality, you want to be her boyfriend and that’s not going to happen, so you’ll always be wanting something you can’t have. You might think you can deal with that, but chances are you’ll find it really hard and I think she knows that. Maybe she knows she’ll find it hard too, and that’s why she thinks it best you keep a bit of distance. She’s being pretty sensible here, and fair to you and to herself. Unfortunately you might not see a problem with being boyfriend and girlfriend whilst attending different schools, but she has to feel the same and she doesn’t. IF she knows you think it would work, and still she’s saying no, she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend I’m afraid, and being around you all the time probably seems to her like tormenting you. In the nicest way she’s telling you to move on from this.
I wish you all the very best.
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