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writes:Hi all, Since a young age I have wanted to move abroad. My rule of life is that the world is a large place and England is almost nothing on the globe, so go and explore!! I am 19 now and I know it will be years until I have the funds, experience and immigration points to move abroad (most specifically, Canada). The problem is this; my girlfriend of one year has no desire to live abroad. She caught me looking up info on visas the other day and went mad telling me I don't know what love is because I prioritise moving abroad to being with her. I've told her we have years to wait but she is adamant she doesn't wnat to go and said she doesn't want to be with me if I'm just with her to fill time till I leave the country.I do love her. I love her more than I've ever felt for anyone and I know I can't force her to come with me but I also don't want her to force me to sacrifice my dream. I'm in such a pickle.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 May 2010):
 You will have to decide if it is her or your dreams.
Perhaps you need to realize your dreams first, to see the world before you want to settle down to mundane life with someone.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (26 May 2010):
 Before you decide, bring her over here (to Canada) for a holiday. There are some nice spots, and she might just decide that it's not such a terrible idea after all.
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reader, damo4eva +, writes (26 May 2010):
What you should do... If your Girlfriend Doesn't want to go, you should want to take on board her feelings as well as your own. If you find that doesn't help, just stay with your Girlfriend if you love her
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 May 2010):
There are 3 billion women in the world. Another woman will come along. You get one life. Another will not come along. I'm sure you do love her. But she's emotionally blackmailing you and you shouldn't take that for a start. Of course you love her. But like I say, you only get one life, whereas another girl will come along. Choose the dream.
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