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Do I give up my dream degree to be there with him?

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Question - (12 February 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 February 2008)
A female Singapore age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hi guys,

I have a huge problem and I need some help!!

I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and it's been absolutely amazing. In 2007, I studied at boarding school in Melbourne and my boyfriend went to an international school in Singapore. It was all good, and everything was going perfect so for uni, we both decided that we would go to Melbourne uni and do commerce - cos it was a good uni and we would be able to be together, move in and enjoy ourselves and all.

Then, I checked ucas track and got offers from lse, Edinburgh, Saint Andrews and Durham. I wasn't expecting them cos I only put in my application on the 15th of January, and now I have these offers, it's just so hard to throw them out cos Edinburgh is giving me my dream degree, economics and Mandarin.

The descion is so hard, cos my boyfriend gave up Sydney uni for Melbourne just to be with me, and it would be so selfish to just leave. I don't think long distance relationships bewteen him in Melbourne and me in Scotland would work as he would be way too hurt, he has already planned moving in together, travelling together.

It's a cross road now and I really don't know what to do, advice please. Do I give in and go with my boyfriend and maybe be really happy, or go for a crazy gap year(try to forget about him) and go with my ambitions and pursue that dream degree?

Sorry this is a long post, I really need some advice,

thanks! =)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008):

The saying goes that love can conquer all and this could be the test that it needs. I would go with your dreams and explain all of this to him. Dont beat around the bush or you will be doing what he wants to do. I know this is hard, but it has to be a dream come true. Go for it girl. By the way, i am from Durham city.

take care

xx

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (12 February 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntI think you should go with your dreams. If you give them up for your boyfriend you might eventually begin to resent him for it. If your love is strong enough you guys will be able to keep the relationship going and then meet up at the end of your education.

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