Do I give my ex extra time to pay me back or go to court?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I was dating a guy for almost a year, he had had a very bad time with his health and wasnt working. He slowly got better and the doctor signed him off sick so he could work. In the time he wasnt working i offered to lend him a bit of money which he agreed to pay back at certain times. These 'times' came and went he got a few days work and said he would pay me back but then he conveniently had other bills and couldnt pay me back. I told him when i needed the money back as it was for my child, So he had 2 months notice for this and i also gently reminded him over this 2 month. He suddenly stopped seeing me but would message and 'keep me sweet' He then announced on social media he was in a relationship with someone. He then blocked me. I didnt know what to do so i looked into legal side of things and posted a statutory demand to his mums house where as far as i knew he was living. I stated on the letter For Addressee Only but his mum broke the law and opened it. She contacted another family member who got in touch with me and told me he had moved but they didnt know where. ( i think thats a lie ) the family member helped and passed on some details so he could pay me and because of the legal letter i sent he did pay me a bit of the money owed. I screen shot all this money lending and the most recent message he sent saying hell pay me ever week and leave him alone. I just want my money im not interested in him ive got a wonderful boyfriend. The problem is now this letter gives the person owing money 21 days to pay it back or it goes to court, there is only 4 more days left until i can apply for court to get involved. In his last message he did say he couldnt afford to pay it all by that date. My question is do i still go ahead with court or should i 'lie' and say ive got an extension on the date he has to pay by, The only reason he paid me back was because i got legal papers involved and this made him pull his finger out and pay me, Do i go court ( which will cost me fees and not sure i can claim back ) or do i say ive got an extension for another 2 week ? i dont want to go through the court but i dont want him thinking im a soft touch by giving an extra 2 week, what should i do ?

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