Do I follow her for the sake of the relationship?

A male age 41-50, *ommon writes:

Got into a long distance relationship where this person moved 2500 miles just to be with me. Never before been here and dont know anyone. Before moving, I was asked if there was anything I needed to tell this person that would affect us if found out later. But I did not mention one thing. After a year that person found out and got very upset and decided to go back home. I wanted to continue the relationship also did she so for the first months I decided to visit her and she was very normal as to having that same relationship. Now Im back home I needed to take care of some financial issue debts, and to prepare myself for the next thing which is to move up there if I really wanted to continue the relationship. This person also had some issues to take care of so we are now too busy for one another. The phone relationship started off great, then got less and less phone calls. Now the other day I questioned about that and she basically told me directly that she would rather be friends, and not boyfriends and girlfriends. She clearly made it a fact that she cannot forgive me for the lie that I hadnt told her about. What do I do? I really want to be with this person but I have some issues and so does she. Its clear that we dont have the time for this relationship because of our distance and because of our issues. She also mentioned to call her anytime and is still planning on visiting soon. I really need help?

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