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writes:I never been a real relationship... But a few months ago I met this guy online and we fell in love with each other... We became girlfriend and boyfriend... We see each other on cam often, spend hours talking on the phone, and I did show him my upper body on cam as he requested... I know it was stupid but I did it based on love... I really regret it and I will never do it again... A few days ago, we broke up and it really devastating... I can't stop crying and I lose my appetite... We found out that we want different things... I'm still a virgin... I never kiss or hug a guy... But I've already shown my body to a guy I met online... I'm still trying to move on now... But do I deserve to be loved by other guys? Do I deserve to feel love again after what I've done? Should I tell my next boyfriend about this? or just move on like nothing happened? What do you guys think about this? What if one day you find out that your girlfriend has ever done the same thing? Is it a big deal? Does it make me a slut?*No cursing or dirty words please... I've learned my lessons... It was so wrong to show body on cam... I was so stupidly in love with him...I'm an asian... In my country, people are very conservative and judgemental (especially people in my hometown)...I found out that he secretly took pics of me showing him my body... I was really mad and felt so stupid to trust him... I just hope that he wouldn't use it to ruin my future... but if he did, its my consequences and I will try to deal and live with it...I feel really sorry for my family and friends... =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): I wouldn't even consider it a mistake, it's what people who are interested in other people do with each other. Not a big deal at all. I've done much, much, much worse things in my younger days and I have been happily married for the last 4 years to the love of my life.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Well, you've made an honest mistake here. It happens. What matters is that, rather than repeating the mistake, you pick yourself up, stand proud, and learn from it. This means securing some form of commitment from a man before you give too much of your heart to him.
Don't shut men out, and don't be too hard on yourself over this. Those are unproductive ways to respond to this experience. Try to meet men in person, too - it's easier to read their body language and figure out what kind of person they really are.
As for the pictures, I wouldn't worry too much about them. Worrying will only make you sick, and it won't change what he does with them. Hopefully, he would consider it shameful to show those around, and won't do it; if he does, react with pride and sincerity, letting anyone who wants to judge you know that you've made a mistake and learned from it, and won't be looked down on just for being a normal, fallible human being. Best of luck.
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reader, ghoku +, writes (15 April 2011):
dont be too hard on yourself. as you have said you've learned your lesson already and thats good enough. everybody makes mistakes. just move on with your life as normal as possible and dont feel less to your self. this to shall pass.
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