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22-25,
anonymous
writes:So this guy likes me and i sorta like him back but people tell him not to date him but my best friend says if i dont she wont be my friend and people that said no because they wont let me date him and my mum says i should say no what should i do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 May 2017):
 I would listen to your mum. Your friend is trying to black mail you, which means she is not a true friend, and she is someone who doesn't care about how you feel. You would be much better without this friend in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2017): You listen to your mom's advice before you listen to some so-called friend.
Why is this friend so concerned about who you date? I'd wave bye-bye to that little nutcase. She's suggesting that you defy your mother? How disrespectful!!!
Your mother would have good reason to warn you; and you say even other people are warning you. Why? Care to explain?
Of course you like him back. You're a teen-age girl, he's a bad-boy. If everyone says don't...that's exactly what you'll do! He'll break your heart, or get you into trouble.
Once you get too attached to him; you'll find out exactly why everyone warned you! Then run crying to mother. But you'll also have learned your lesson the hard way!
Yes, you're old enough to make your own decisions. Are you also old enough to handle the consequences of bad decisions!
No one is too grown-up for good advice!!! You did come for advice; so that means you're smarter than your friend!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 May 2017):
 Why does your mom say no to dating him? Is it to dating in general (for you) because of age or THIS particular guy she doesn't want you around?
Does your mom tell you NO for a GOOD reason or not?
And secondly! WHAT kind of friend DEMAND that you date some guy?! How is it HER business whom you date? What is she? Your pimp?
She doesn't sound like a good friend at all. It's DEFINITELY not up to her whether you date a guy or not. What's her next demand? Someone who gives you ultimatums in lieu of friendship/relationship - are NOT looking out for what might be BEST for you. But what's BEST for them.
So I'd reconsider this. Talk to your mom and find out why she is so adamant on saying no.
IF you already KNOW why she said no (let's say he is MUCH older or from a very different culture than your or has a really BAD rep.) then she is saying NO with YOUR best intentions at heart, and maybe you should listen.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (23 May 2017):
 I'd listen to your mum. Your friend is not a good friend if she'll threaten you.
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reader, N91 +, writes (23 May 2017):
 What on earth?
Why would your friend fall out with you because you won't date someone? I'd say good riddance if that's how much she values your friendship.
YOU are old enough to make your own decisions. If YOU don't want to date him, then don't. No one else's opinion matters.
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