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male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello.I'd like to get some advice, as I've never been in a similar situation before.I've met a really good, caring and beautiful girl, and in short, we talked a bit, she told me she liked me since the last year, and later on, we kissed a few times and spent some time together. Nothing "dangerous" happened after that.After that, she wanted to be completely honest and told me her age (6 years older than me, and has a child of that age).She's never been married, her ex left her pregnant, and she's been a single mother since then.We're both finishing our university this year (she started a lot later than I did).Currently, I'm in my early 20s and I feel like she could mean the world to me.I don't know if it'll be just temporary, and I wouldn't want to hurt her (or her child, 'cause as you know, children can't understand why someone they're attached to disappears from their life).Do you think it could work out if we both tried, or is it better for them to find someone more mature and closer to her age?Thank you for your time and hope to find the best possible advice, as I'm placing them on the first place and I'm looking for the best possible outcome.
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reader, 95Student +, writes (24 May 2017):
I generally love kids, so I think it won't be a problem, but I'll let her decide when and how I'll se it,
and it probably won't be until she's completely ready and trusts me enough.
I've already started slowly, and have no intention to rush things, as I care a lot for her.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 May 2017):
 It could work. But first I don't think you should get to know her child until you both are dating for a while. You don't know if it will work out or not so your best not getting the child involved to soon.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 May 2017):
 I don't think the fact that she has a child is a big obstacle (unless you really dislike kids) her being 6 years older and having a bit more experience might and it might not.
I say GO SLOW - very slow. And PLEASE don't get involved with the kid. Date a good 6-9-12 months BEFORE the kid becomes part of the "dates" or time spent together. That way if it DOESN'T work out the KID isn't "losing" someone he/she have grown to care for. IF it does work out, you and she will be going strong BEFORE the kid is added.
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reader, 95Student +, writes (23 May 2017):
Thank you for your responses, I decided to try and see how it goes.
I was afraid to register but your posts have helped me
to clear my doubts and try .
Thank you once again and have a nice day.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 May 2017):
 I think it can work.
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reader, N91  +, writes (23 May 2017):
 I don't see why not.
If you both like each other and are on the same page regarding where you're both at in life then I'd say go for it.
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