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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My best friend and me are falling in love with each other, he said he is in love with me. Hopelessly I've waited on him for months. But little things make everything unclear and makes me unsure. Like him kissing and flirting with other girls on nights out. Little does he know how much it hurts! He says he would love to get with me, and has said he fantasises about me being his wife and us having kids together, but despite all this he's never asked me to be his. But if he's in love with me why not now? Why does he imply we're for the future? His reason regards himself and what he's going through. His Mom has cancer. His reason is absolutely understandable. He doesn't want me to go through it with him. But as a friend I'm going to be going through it with him. So either way I care.I've told him that I've started seeing someone. He said he doesn't want to lose me and he wishes for me to be his girlfriend. Do I continue seeing this new guy or wait for who I believe to be my soulmate for God knows how long? I can't help but think of my friend when I'm on dates with the new guy I'm seeing. I love my best friend...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 How can he say he is in love with you and then kiss other girls in front of you? That's not clueless, that's just cruel! Tell him it hurts you!
And no, if he can't stick to his words and make action out of it, then it is all just words and he isn't really in love with you.
Tell him you need to see actions that shows you he loves you. Kissing other women proves that he DOESN'T love you. I'm wondering if he is just playing you to be honest. If he truly is in love with you he'd want YOU, not someone else. Tell him if he doesn't tie the knot now and commits, then you will have no choice but to move on. You can't wait indefinitely, he knows that.
Right now he sounds like a player who is just telling you things without meaning them. Maybe I'm wrong. But be careful with your heart and who you give it to.
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