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writes:not really sure where to start but here goes..... i had been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and thought he was 'the one' i then discovered he had stolen all my savings and spent them on some online computer game. i also found out that he had been sacked from his job over a year ago and pretended to go to work every day!when i went looking in his room for all my bank statements he had hidden i found a load of stilettos and kinky underwear in his size... he says he just dressed up as a bit of fun and doesnt do it anymore. although i saw his profile on a dating site (i broke up with him as there was obviously no trust) and he is listed as a transvestite looking for men only!( and only into bondage and a whole load of weird stuff) how do i begin to even get my head around this? did i turn him gay? did he never love me? why did hhe lie so much? i thought we had a solid honest relationship. andnow im scared as i have suffered from terrible depression in the past and i really dont want to go that way again! should i confront him ( he doesnt know i have seen his dating profile and doesnt know i know he is gay. how do i trust a guy after this?a very confused 24 year old!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 October 2008):
If he managed to steal all your money and pretend he had a job for year when he'd been sacked then don't you think it's possible that he was into all this dressing up and going with men all along?
His sexuality is no reflection on you. The only thing you need to confront him about is how and when he's going to pay you back the money he owes you.
Then just put the fact that you fell for a lying scumbag of a nutjob down to bad luck and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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