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*rokenhearted_04
writes:Ok sooo I am now 17 and im with a boy who's 18. I really do Belive I'm really seriously in love with this guy we've known each other for two years and we just got together. Lately he's been bringing up marriage and sex. He told me that he's going to marry me when he has enough money to buy me a ring (I Belive him) well anyways we had this long talk about sex because he said he dosnt wanna have 'sex' with me that he wants to 'make love to me' he says sex is just a feel good thing while making love is something that only happens with the one you truly love. Everyone in our familys have told me that we were made for each other and how lucky we are that we found our true love at such a early age,but our friends (mostly mine) have told me he just wants to have sex with me (I dont belive that) and they have me at a choice to where I have to choose the one I belive I'm truly and madly in love with or my friends....... I dont know what to do... :( HELP!!!!! Please! And thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): if those friend of yours were real friends they would never make u shooce betwin them and the guy ur in love with....
if i were u ill listen to my boyfriend and if i see that he really wont just to fuck me im gonna break his nose...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Well he seems like a descent boy like if you am telling us everything like if he has ever hit you but you still love him.. Your mates are normally right about boys but they should never make you choose between them or a boy.... just wait a while longer to see if he is really the one for you or if your mates are right :D
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reader, brokenhearted_04 +, writes (28 June 2009):
brokenhearted_04 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the help!
I told my bf I wanted to wait and he was totally fine with that!!
he has asked me to marry him but my parents told me to give it another year so that I'll be 18 but we have promise rings for now & I love him more then ever! Anywayss thanks so much guys!!!
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reader, nadyra adyf  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 hello.i think the best way is u have to think a lot about this matter...sex or making love is just the same. so..if u dun want to losing it..n u love urself...,i think u have to ask ur bf gently to changed his mine for that issue.to me,in a relationship does not need to having sex with ur bf because love is not for sex.these phrases is just i dun buy it."making love is something that only happens with the one you truly love."-it is true that making love n bla3....but...u r still underage,and it is not suitable for you to do it now.if he is really love you...he wont said that he wants to make love with you. so,in this case,u have to be the mastermind n u have to persuade ur bf to hang on the issue till u guys have a strong relationship in future. enjoy ur relstionship with doing other things rather than think about sex@make love.2 years been couples doesnt mean u guys have to make love.2 years is just the beginner of your lovelife. trust me,if u let ur bf do it to u...u have to think other way to keep him with u until the rest of ur life. but..if u did not give it...he'll respect u..n u have to show him that u love him just not bcuz of sex or wutever...but u feel happy with him...u feel secure with him..u feel that he the only person that u loved for the 1st time.trust me..it is happen to my relationship.my bf never ask me to have sex me or wutsoever because he respect my borderline whenever im with him. so..last but not least...im in here is not to force u to listen to my advice or wut...is just i wanna help u...so...think twice..n make the right decision..it is not just about ur bf..is about u too. u dun have to sacrifice ur virginity just bcuz u love somebody.gudluck..and have a happy day!tata~
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 What sort of friends try to force you into making a decision like that? Are they single virgins by any chance? Cos chances are if so, theyre just jealous that theyre not getting in on the action and theyre trying to manipulate you into dumping him so your on their level. Just take it easy with this guy, dont rush into things. Dont marry him so young and so soon! lol. Just take it one step at a time and in the wise words of the supremes remember- you cant hurry love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): If you really believe that you are in love with and will marry this guy, then you're basically deiciding between a life-long love and marraige and family, and life-long (maybe) friends.
To me, it's abvious. I wouldn't do anythign in the world to compromise the marraige i'm in. And when my friends told me they didn't care if he died overseas, that was the end of them.
So either your friends really care about about you and truely believe that he's using you for sex;
or they care more about their own satisfaction than your happiness and they are only saying that becuase they're jealous, and don't want you to spend your time with him instead of them.
Whichever it is, I can't tell you. you must decide. Decide you has good intentions, who really DOES care about you and is acting completely selflessly.
And if you have any doubt about your bf's motives behind the sex, you can always withold it a bit longer. Either he will leave because that's all he's looking for, or he will stay , becuaes your friends are wrong.
~SY.
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