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writes: Breaking off contact.Help please..... I'm 36 and my now ex girlfriend is 40..... we were in a long distance relationship for 4 years and split nearly 4 months ago. During our time together we had a fantastic relationship, very compatible and on the 'same wavelength' most of the time. Having said that we did have our downs too. This is not the first time we've gone our separate ways, we split for almost 9 months and then were back together for one year. The first time we split was due to a couple of reasons...... I was diagnosed with MS and I also found that she had posted a profile on a dating website. The second time around we agreed to get back together on the basis that I was to move to her hometown 300 miles away and put the past behind us. During that one year back together, she kept 'pushing' me to move up , but I wasn't quite ready as I have 2 children that I see every other weekend and a good job that she wanted me to quit. She became very needy and wanted me there as soon as possible and we didn't really talk about the things that were holding me back.... mainly health, children, friends and family, work, etc... also she would not compromise on us both moving halfway (she has 2 children) as she did not want to put her children through any change.Arguments started to develop and the only topic was about when I was going to move in with her. I'm fitter than I've ever been and I spent most of the time traveling to her hometown and during that year and she only came to mine a couple of times. In fact I was spending on average about 10 days a month at hers.All that said we decide to split quite suddenly after an argument about something trivial......... since then (May 2007) I have not attempted to contact her, but she calls me and texts every 5 days or so. We also have the added pressure of working for the same company but different locations. I will be meeting her on a training course in 2 weeks time (Sept 2007) and then again at a conference 2 weeks after that. After that we will not see each other for at least 3 months for work.I'm still very attracted to her and love her. I can't stop thinking about her and seem 'stuck' with my life. I'm also fearful that i'll never have such strong feelings about anyone else.I think the contact is hurting me as it sends me 'back' each time I hear from her. I CAN cope with a long distance relationship and would love to 'go back', but that's not what she wants, I know I need to move on and doing everything that your 'supposed to do in this situation.My question is do i break contact with her or try and get back together .......if it is break contact do I wait until we've met or do it now? Any other suggestions would be most welcome
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reader, AK2410 +, writes (6 September 2007):
AK2410 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, this is the first time i've posted it
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (5 September 2007):
 Is it just me or did we have this same question yesterday or maybe even the day before?I could of sworn i answered it.
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