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writes:Advice please.. I have been dating a 37 year old ( i am 28) for just under 2 months. We get on well, attracted to each other and go out on dates approx once or twice a week.He is a lovely affectionate guy, always holds my hand, cuddles,kisses me etc. But my issue is he does not communicate a lot when we are not together, he texts more than calls, and normally only calls to make arrangements for seeing each other again. His actions when I am not with him suggest he does not like me, but they are completely different when we are together. Is this a sign that he is not really in to me ? Also I am wondering what next... do we keep on going on dates and see how it goes or is it ok to ask where is this going or is it too soon? Am i asking to much ?
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reader, Dear J  +, writes (9 June 2009):
Well, I don't see nothing wrong with discussing relationships in general, just so enveryone can be on the same page. As far as the no-call when you're not together, that's weird....maybe he's around "someone" and can't speak. Do you call him? and he not pick up. There's nothing wrong with asking questions or letting your intentions be known just don't become annoying about it.
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reader, holikdad +, writes (9 June 2009):
Yes, you're asking to much. You've only been together for two months, give it a little time. What's the big hurry??
Maybe he has a professional job and doesn't like to make personal calls while at work. Maybe he's a private person so he doesn't want anyone that he's around during the day to know that he's in a relationship.
If you push, he'll push back and then he'll leave.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Some people are not very good at the communication part when apart from someone, i hate texting as its so un personal....but just tell him, say oh i wish you would call me more, after 2 months you can say this as your with him so of course your want more connection with him when not face to face with him, maybe he thinks you dont want him to call you! Keep dating until your ready to go to the next level, then you need to ask him what he wants from this relationship! Don't worry to much, as i know lots of friends who have boyfriends who dont make much effort when there apart! If your enjoying being with him then dont think to much about it and have fun!
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