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writes:okay so i had this boyfriend ..we dated last year then we broke up, then we tried it again this year but he was spending time with this girl ... and in class he would laugh and talk to her and we dont talk much in class so it got me to thinking something and friends of mines were telling me about "them." i got so insecure and i talked to him and that talk landed in a argument and i broke up with him feeling so guilty. i went to try to get him back said im am sorry and he said he made his decision and i hurt him. but i was hurt too you know... and now i want him back but i want him to change and he siad to me that i am overly darmatic like really... and now one of my friends (not the girl he spend time with) likes him and he likes her she told me ... so i was like do what you want. the girl he was spending time with alot in class and also at break time so i brought it up then he came by me at break the day after the talk then that stopped so.... now his cousin told me that he said he's taking a break and not ready to be in a relationship with me as yet and we are still friends and so but its hard... and also the 1st time i broke up with him and the second time i broke up with him.. then my best friend and I was walking and we saw him so we went by him and he said that on a scale of 110 ow much much do you like her he said 4 then 6 then if we would get back he said no... when i got back , on facebook he said sorry about what he said back there he was a bit heartlesshelp! whats the next step do i ask for him back (cause i want us to be back) , or just move onps. he came to talk to me after some days after the argument and we went back friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2013): You are just a couple of kids and will go back and forth until you get tired of each other. I can't really give you advice that sticks; because you are too young. You will have to learn things over time.When boys go back and forth between girls at your age, they don't really feel as deeply as you do. They play with your feelings because they like knowing a lot of girls like them. You feel jealous and it hurts knowing he is with other girls, so you want to take him back to stop it from hurting. He will only do it again and again.It's hard, but when boys hurt your feelings and they don't act like they care. You have to be strong and let him know that he is not allowed to do that. You don't take him back, you don't text him, you don't answer when he sends you a text, and you tell him to leave you alone.He is just a kid, and he can't see how wrong things are. So you stop him from hurting you by not paying him anymore attention. As for the other girls, it's time to make yourself some new friends. They're supposed to be on your side when you're sad; not checking out your boyfriend for their turn to be with him. You will be sad for a little while. Just talk to your mother and tell her how you feel. She is there for you, and she will help you when you feel it's too hard to handle this stuff by yourself.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (18 April 2013):
 Too much drama going on here! First you were friends, but then he got interested in another girl and you broke up with him; now you want him back, but he isn't keen on getting back together with you.
Honey, you're both very young, and its natural to have crushes on boys. BUT it's also a time when you should not be too serious about any one person.
You need to enjoy having a number of different friends - boys and girls and to really focus on your schoolwork. That's the important thing: getting good grades so that when you graduate you'll be equipped to get a good job.
I'm sorry you're so upset over this boy. However, you did apologize to him.
Not all friendships work out. That's hard, especially when you really like someone, but its the way life is.
Best to try to accept it and move on.......
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