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writes: Hi there,This may seem a silly question but for some reason it has me worried!I am 25 year old blond female. Most guys I meet who get to know me always say I am very sexy. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Do guys want to marry sexy women??Your opinion would really help.Thank u.xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): I'm a guy who currently has a crush on a very sexy girl, and I often wonder if she would be the kind of girl I would like to marry. The short answer is, of course I would want to have someone like her around me all the time who stirs up my senses....but as common wisdom states, looks are only temporary. I think it would be fun to be around her because she is a cheerful person, but I wonder if that cheer is based on her constantly getting attention or if she finds life enjoyable aside from the fact that she is desired everywhere she goes. I know when I get attention I'm really mellow and fun to be around, but it's when I have to fight for the attention that makes my disposition a bit different. I wonder if we were to be married how she would handle a dispute between the two of us...would she just rely on her attractiveness to gain the upper hand, when the going got tough....it would be easy for her to do that....so that's the challenge I think any man would face when he marries a super sexy attractive woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): My Ex Husband was given advice from his aging uncle...stay away from the ugly ones...they'll age you something terrible.
With that, looks are nice but just don't do it for most people...it is who you really are...how you speak and act that will denote if you are sexy as hell or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): Malyce, sounds like you have a wise dad! :)
Anonymous red head lady - redheads are supposed to be one of the most successful groups of ladies in our culture, they are supposed to do especially well in commerce and in a social environment too. They are said to be very strong, independent thinkers who can attract the same in the opposite sex. They are, in many ways, the opposite of male redheads [who almost certainly are termed gin-gers], they are generally less commercially minded, achieve worse academically, are less sociable, less popular and least desired by the opposite sex. I'm not saying I believe all that, I just remember reading it somewhere. ie: don't shoot the messenger, alright? :P
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (17 August 2006):
 I love redheads!!!!
For me sexiness is all about personality.
I have often found that the nicer lookers are the ones with the ugliest personalities, not always the case.
A good looking female with good personality, perfection.
My fiancee meets this criteria, plus she is a redhead.
What more can I ask for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): Come on you guys. You've mentioned blondes and brunettes. What about us redheads?
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reader, bonym +, writes (17 August 2006):
 I love this thread!!!
Thats so true Malyce_Synn, my guy friends have often said well Victoria Beckham for example is not conventionally pretty but she is sexy because of the way she carries herself. However, I think she is very beautiful looking, but far too bony to be sexy. I think being "sexy" is how a woman carries herself and being pretty perhaps is about your overall beauty. Take me for example, I dont think I am pretty really, but people always say you are sexy because of my what they call "hourglass" figure, but then most people I know and others say I am pretty but I really cant see it at all xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): Sexy is more than looking it; it's how you move, it's how you speak,it's how you laugh, it's how you dress (not underdress), it's how you smile.
When I was 12, my Dad said that Tina Turner and Annie Lennox weren't pretty but sexy. I went Huh?
I asked him if he thought Marilyn Monroe was sexy? He said she could be but she was beautiful; more than what she thought or wanted others to see her for. He said you could see she was vunerable and not really wanting to be a "sex symbol".
I asked about Tina Turner and Annie Lennox. He said Tina was sexy because of her legs and her confidence. He said Annie Lennox was sexy because she had over exaggereated facial feautures and that she looked appealing when she was a boring housewife with little make up, or when she was a blonde bombshell, on her own, or with black hair. (music videos from the 80's). He said some men like how women change their looks.
Sexy is more than being blonde; just be thankful you are found sexy.
I don't think it is a problem unless you believe it is so stop worrying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): Thinking about this question some more I would also say (to the question asker) that:
If a guy compliments you on being sexy, it means nothing more than you are sexually-appealing. e.g. - they fancy you.
This has absolutely no connection with marriage, nor any thing else. Being heard "You're sexy" should be taken as nothing more than a confidence boost. It does not mean to pursue this man, nor read any thing else in to it.
Any guy who wants a life-long marriage will not look for "sexyness" as a quality, they will look for things that will help in being with someone for the rest of their life, e.g,
Understandingness, patience, commitment, a sense of humour, responsible, parenting skills, good health, similar beliefs.
Things like that - just the things a women would look for in a man.
If a guy comments on you having any of the qualities listed above, that would be an indication that they saw you as a serious partner.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (17 August 2006):
 Just to flip the table somewhat, my man is a blonde (thankfully, natural), he cooks, cleans, irons and does all his own housework - and the garden, I find him sexy!!! I may just have to marry him!!! ;o)) hahaha
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (17 August 2006):
 Well.. Im a natural blonde... and cant stand bottle blondes as they give me a bad name!! as Pete writes men view them differently these days and I certainly do not fall in to that bracket to which he describes, but appreciate he was referring to bottle blondes, but i dont think you can class people in the way they present themselves by hair colour...
To the question.... Everybody sees something different in people... Some we find attractive some we dont... Generally a man will marry a woman who he loves, can have a great sex life with and also one that can set up a proper home with him.. sometimes though they dont get the right mix, i wouldnt say being sexy would stop a man marrying you, equally being not as sexy would stop him from marrying you... If someone loves someone they will marry them as they will find them sexy, what one person deems sexy another wouldnt... so yes men do marry sexy women, its geneerally the women he fell in love with as he finds her sexy. if you are referring to everyone else thinking his wife is sexy then i dont think you can stereotype that as we all define sexy as something different.
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reader, bonym +, writes (17 August 2006):
To Dr Pete: Cool! I hear your point, it is very true as well.
To The question poster: I think as I said earlier your questionis obvious, a man would want to marry an attractive woman because in his eyes she is beautiful. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): There is absolutely nothing wrong with blondes!
*fears being lynched by a mob of (fake) blondes*
What I mean is through observing women (usually girls) I can see differences in the way they deal with attraction and receive attention that is based on their hair colour (usually when the hair is dyed from dark to blonde) This is not stereotyping, I realise all people are unique (blar blar blar, etc) but there are certainly persisting, usually subtle different attitutes based on the colour of hair.
Back to the question, surely if you are marrying someone you would find them sexy - I don't mean necessarily "societies" sexy, but a personal sexyness that comes from loving them - it's their ways that make them sexy. I think the question is a bit odd, to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): Are you really asking if guys will find sexy, attractive women, decent and marriagable instead of simply 'lusting' after them for primal, sexual reasons? Yes, there are good quality men out there who do have integrity, and will look beyond your 'sexiness' and see who you truely are, as a unique person. If guys are simply coming on to you to bed you and want nothing more, then they are people who simply seek immediate gratification with no regard to your feelings or who you really are. These are the fellows you avoid like the plague. I think you know this. Sometimes being a 'sexually alluring' woman can be tough because one doesn't know, what a guy is really after. There are a lot of men who will take advantage to get what they want. My suggestion to all women...is simply don't be so quick to have sex with a fellow you date. Get to know him as a friend, first. Never let your emotional boundries down until trust and respect has been well established. Attitude, smarts and perspective make a person far happier in the long run, than passion does.
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reader, bonym +, writes (17 August 2006):
I do like what Snowbird has written, very interesting!!! Dr Pete whats wrong with blondes??!!!!!!!!!!
I dont know about men prefering blondes these days I think thats outdated now I mean, that would rule out most Spanish, French, Carribean and Asian women wouldnt it, most men prefer Beyonce or Angelina Jolie nowadays!!!!! I think. Just a thought. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): snowbird, a feeder you mean? ;)
I have a few views on blondes myself, probably best kept to myself though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): yes, however, most men will settle for women who are more "wife material" meaning that can do the ironing and washing, aswell as being good at sex and good looking also quite intelligent. it all depends on your lcoation and group of men.
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reader, snowbird +, writes (17 August 2006):
Thinking 'outside the box', as it were, I have heard of men who have tried to make their wife/gf feel unattractive so that they have'nt the confidence to stray. I knew a bloke who made his wife so devoid of self-esteem that she used to 'comfort-eat', and put on a lot of weight. Then when she realised what he was up to, went to the gym and went on a diet, had a complete re-vamp - met with his strongest resistance ...and left him for a younger, fitter guy!! An extreme case maybe, of a man who did not want his wife to be attractive, but interesting, nonetheless..
Having said that, many men do feel intimidated being with a sexy attractive woman, and can get really possessive, or start belittling her so that she does'nt feel attractive anymore. Sad, but it happens!
You will see the signs if you meet anyone like that, I'm sure, so I would not worry. Just be aware that men like that are around.
I read a magazine article about whether men actually prefer blondes, and the outcome was interesting in that, whereby most men felt initially attracted to blondes, as they are more noticeable in the darkness of a nightclub, (as are the obvious ones dressing in white, or sparkly outfits). These were perceived as being 'easy;' the ones most eager to get noticed, 'picked up', i.e;, not the "marrying type" whilst the darker haired girls were the most mysterious, quieter, and interesting.. I am not saying this as a personal point of view, (I was blonde all my life up until about 7 yrs ago!); but it was in a lad's mag. I know this is'nt directly addressing your question, but I found it fascinating, and so decided to share it with you! Don't worry about it, you have plenty of time, so just have fun for now! :o)
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reader, bonym +, writes (17 August 2006):
The question is not silly, but its obvious. Beauty is in the eys of the beholder so to one man, "Kate" is gorgeous to another she isn, but if "John" thinks "Kate" is attractive and he loves her he will marry her I suppose. If men think you are sexy then thats not a bad thing, they are complimenting God's handiwork and thats good, but some men are only about looks, as are some women, I should know I used to be one of them!!! But at the end of the day, physical beauty is a factor because thats where the initial attraction takes place in most cases. xXx
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (17 August 2006):
 Hey,
guys want to marry women they are insanly in love with - women they can imagine themselves spending the rest of their days with. Someone they want to grow old with. Whether you're sexy or not doesn't matter! When you find the right guy, you'll know about it. Different guys want different things, but who-eve you marry is marry the person you are inside, not just body!
Hope this helped!
Phoebe xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): What's the alternative of marrying a sexy women?
Marrying an unattractive women?
I can't think of any good reason why a man want want to marry an unattractive women...
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