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writes:I live in the country/farm. I am good house keeper and I can cook,clean and I like doing DIY using hammers and plyers. Would a guy like me or would he like city girl with high heels and painted nails and short skirts who works in office compared to someone like me - plain and boring and not glamorous like the city girls? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): My husband likes me.. i don't wear high heels.. he doesn't like high heels and makeup and dolled up outfits and clubbing and porn.. Probably because of where he grew up but we met in alpharetta. Most of the other peple around me like the city girl type. It depends on the guy! Lot's of guys will like you and some others won't@ but the only ones that matter are the ones who will. Don't change anything about yourself to please a guy. Just wait till you find one who will adore you the way you are. True love is never wanting to change the other person.. don't worry. Someone will ADORE you ... trust me!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 Well it sounds to me like you have lots of good things going on so you shouldnt have a problem finding a man that will appreciate you for who you are.
Where you will find the problem is attracting a man - men love women to be feminine and even though they wont admit it, they like a woman to act like a traditional woman. Therefore if they see you doing DIY etc, they will think that you dont need a man (seen as DIY is typically a male thing to do).
Not all men like the high maintenance "city girl" look - some men hate a girl who spends ages getting ready and who are obsessed with the way they look. But no man likes a woman who doesnt take care of herself and who doesnt make any effort at all with her apperance.
I think you need to find some middle ground here - there is no need for you to worry about looking like a "city" girl because this is just not who you are. However if you do want to meet a man then you should make a little more effort with the way you look - have your hair done, maybe start wearing a little make-up etc. You dont have to get your nails done or anything like that, just try and make the most of yourself. Buy yourself your favourite perfume so you smell nice - little things like this can make a huge difference.
You are in no way inferior to these "city" girls you seem so obsessed with, however you wont be attractive to a man if you make absolutely no effort with your appearance. You cant show a man right away that you are a great cook, housekeeper etc, this is something he will learn in time. Therefore first impressions are important and if you want to make sure a guy wants to get to know you then you have to make a little bit of effort with yourself. Most men think that if a woman looks after herself (i.e. takes care of her body and makes an effort with her appearance) then she will make a good wife because she will be able to look after her husband and children too.
Dont feel under any pressure to be someone your not, just make the most of who you are!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): am i not good enough because i am not glamorous like the city girls?does that make inferior because i am not very feminine?
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (8 May 2009):
 Everyone likes different types of girls so its impossible to say. Probably 50% of guys would like country and the other half would like city!
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