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writes:I went on a first date a few days ago with somebody who really feels right for me in a lot of ways. I'm not sure why,because he's not what I would have called "the guy I'm looking for." Just something feels right about him. He's a little outlandish,and at first I was thinking "ok is this date over yet",but it seems we developed a sort of rhythm that works beetween our two personalities. He grew on me pretty quickly once I learned how to take him,and despite his sometimes bold personality,he is also a sweetheart inside. I've been on a lot of dates lately trying to find a good person to hopefully settle down with,and he is the only one that did not try to ram his tongue down my throat or get into my pants at the end of the night. Just a sweet simple kiss,and asked that I make sure to let him know when I'm free again. The thing with him is,his whole story is that pretty much he was this college guy just enjoying life,living it up without a care in the world. It seems like he has been around the block quite a bit from some of the stories he has told me. And now that he's done with college and has kind of moved into the real world,he feels like all that's missing now is the girl. But do guys like that ever really change into being good boyfriend material? Because I can tell you,the college version of him sounds like the worst boyfriend material you could ever find in a man,and I get the idea that he liked it that way at the time. I'm not looking for somebody that I have to tame. I mean he really was a sweet guy and I feel a connection,and we are both interested in seeing each other again very soon. But if we progress and he turns out to be somebody who just loves women and can't settle,I will be crushed. Should I just trust what he says and go with it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2011): My fiance had incredible amounts of sex with more people than he is able to recall before he met me. We have been together for 5 years and he is the perfect man for me, I couldnt ask for better. People grow up.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 October 2011):
 He WAS this college guy with mad game. Now that he's in the real world, he told you he's ready to settle down.
Those frat boy, big man on campus guys can grow out of that phase. Not right away though, it usually takes a new career and all their buddies settling down to realize they should follow suit.
If you're into him, give him the benefit of the doubt. But do be on guard, just in case there's some college boy left in him.
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