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writes:I have been talking to this guy my friend introduced to me too online for quite awhile and he's going to be in my area soon soon so we're going to meet in person.I am tall, 5"10 to be exact, and I know he is about four to five inches shorter then me from pictures. I'm wondering if this is going to be really awkward and bother him a lot? He keeps saying he really likes me, but he's pretty shy/a bit nervous, and this seems like something that would affect his self-esteem face-to-face. I quite like him too, and I'm worried the height will turn him off/make him reconsider.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 different people have different preferences. if the height bothers him so much that he won't want to be with you then there is nothing you can do, don't NOT meet him coz you are worried though, he might adore your height. you are not awfully tall, the average ( i think ) men are your height and taller, the guy you are interested in seems to be short for a man, so he is probably used to seeing girls who are a bit taller.
if it bothers you to be taller, just make sure you don't wear high heels when you meet him. would it be so wrong to discuss your concern with him before you meet up with him though? ( i would, but maybe i am tactless or something?) just think it might help if you tell him beforehand what your height is, just to avoid that 'wow she's tall!' reaction when he sees you in person.
i maybe would start a conversation about having a hard time while shopping for jeans today, getting ones that are long enough, explaining that you are 5' 10" so they tend to be a bit short in the leg for you, something like that, so at least he knows
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reader, doublejack  +, writes (19 July 2011):
I'm short for a guy, and my ex-wife is 5'10". So she's a couple inches taller than I am and the gap was even greater when she wore heels. It was never a problem, and in fact I was turned on by the fact that she is model height. I tend to prefer women that are on the tall side, although I've only dated a couple that were actually taller than I am.In any event, I don't think it's a problem when the woman is taller than the guy. I certainly don't get intimidated by it!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 I would find that I can stare right at her boobs :-). Hey, I'm the devil, and a mischievous one...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): I dont know about guys but as a female i would feel stupid being with a man 3 ins shorter than i and even shorter if i wore heels
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 I have friends who have been married for over twenty years. She is about five inches taller than him. The subject comes up quite a bit, but mostly by others. They seem to be very comfortable within themselves and with each other. Some times she will forgo wearing high heels out, but if she really wants to wear them, she does. You will just have to wait until you meet each other, to know how it will go. If the chemistry is right between the two of you, so will everything else be. It is not a 'fault' in either of you, so don't give it any thought. He may have a problem with your height, but it will be his problem, not yours. I hope it all works out nicely for you.xx
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (19 July 2011):
I can only speak for myself. I wouldn't mind. And you're 3 inches taller than I. If you look great in high heels, wonderful.
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