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writes: I really don't get it...I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and just broke up, before i was dating her she was with this other guy for 3 years.That guy, treated her so bad, he doesn't kiss her or hug her or do anything for her. She even told me that he sometimes hit her and that he has anger problems and occasionaly hits the walls and things. That guy spends all his money on gambling, when his broke she has to pay for his food and bills...On the other hand, when i dated her, i truely loved her. I showed my affection to her, kissing her, cudding her and everything. Whenever she wants something i would buy it for her, whenever she wants to go somewhere i would takeher, i treated her like she is everything to me...Ever since we broke up, she has been in contact with this guy, he has asked her to get back with him, she said no. He asked her to mov in with him, she said no... And yet she is still seeing him and going out with him, *as friends*...I mean, if she knows he wants to pick herup again, why doesn't she just stay away from him instead of still seeing him...I really want her back, i miss being with her and it's killing me knowing that this other guy is trying to steal her away from me. I really don't understand what she see's in him...When i ask her is she thinking of getting back with that guy she says no, but i really don't know what to believe...I'm so confused right now...I really don't understand why would someone still have feelings for someone that treats them so badly...Do girls really like guys that treat them bad or what? ...
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reader, pica +, writes (5 October 2006):
Sorry, little girl, it's a bit more complex that 'you cannot help who you love'. Love does not use violence or hatred to get its own way. Love does not manipulate or punish. Love might get intense and upset but it doesn't hurt the thing it loves. Love respects at all times. Anything else isn't love. People can get into relationships where they aren't valued by their partner but they call it love because they don't value themselves either.
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reader, Little girl x +, writes (4 October 2006):
 I am fourteen.
It is not that girls like being treated badly, its that you cannot help who you love. Especially for girls, when they love someone they actually are in love and obsessed.
No matter what that person does to the girl he is still seen amazing. Back off a bit girls come back for that.
I have had rough times, and with the boy i am with now he doesn't exactly treat me amazing but i am too in love with him to see it. In my eyes he is still perfect..
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 In my experience, some women do enjoy being treated badly. I don't know whether it's the excitement of the fights, whether they find angry men sexy or whether they just enjoy being the victim all the time. Whatever the reason, these women are never happy. They go from bad man to bad man, never really being loved and cared about. The sad thing is, these girls often don't know what love is, as no one have ever shown it to them before.
I can see you're hurt but it seems like you did everything for this girl and she just threw it all back in your face. Girls like her like the presents and cudding at first but soon get bored of all that and want what they consider to be 'fun' again. But that's no reflection on you: you find someone who loves and cares for you as you do for them and someone who doesn't need drama in order to be happy.
Good luck
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