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writes:I was talking with a girl (not a girlfriend) about relationships and stuff and when we were talking about the sexual aspect and stuff about how sex is an important part one, she brought up something about penis size.Well I, being the honest(lol) person that I am, told her what my size is and she said "Well hon, I guess you better make it bigger or pack up 'cause no girl's gonna want that in bed!" and started laughing a bit. I felt really embarrassed and quickly changed the subject.She apologized about it later, though, and told me it really didn't matter, but I just can't help thinking about what she said.Do girls actually think that way about size? o.o;The average is like 6-7 inches long and 5-6 inches girth or something...?Mine penis is about 4 1/2 inches long and 4 inches girth around, is it really a bad thing if its smaller?I always thought it wasn't the size but the skill...?I am almost 18 so I'm probably done growing already?If small is bad, what can I do? I haven't had girlfriend and I'm kinda worried now!!I know I shouldn't be worried about this but I can't help it. .
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): i can say that a woman can not think about the size of the dick when she is well excited.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): good lord people, learn the female anatomy, really the most sensitive part of a girls vagina is only a couple inches in, so bud, your going to be just fine, you just have to learn to use what you got. it doesnt matter on the size at all because honestly listen in sex ed, or google canada's sex with sue, she will say the same thing i just did. but yea.. just give it time too your only 17 you have lots of time to grow, you will grow til your about 21-22 but yea, and tbh too big is bad too cause if ur too big u friggin hurt some girls more than anything so yea.. dont worry about it .. honestly .. dont.. FURTHERMORE, who wants to be with a girl that wont respect you/accept you/ want you the way you are, based on your dick size anyways?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): I feel a bit more confirmed(?) now. Thanks everyone. =)
Though I do not understand what one answerer meant by "Learn Chinese"... Can anyone explain?
Also, um. Might I ask what "jelq" is? Does it work? Is it dangerous? I have heard that "exercises" for the penis are very dangerous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): i am a 19 year old girl and i think that the old saying applies its not the size that matters its how you use it and tbh if you find a girl who cares for you and you care for her its the last thing that will change her opinion of you ive been in a similar long term relationship and if you can still use it you find ways of pleasing eachother over a period of time it takes time to know what does it for both of you and also girls have similar insecurites about there breast size and their weight etc its a common worry but im sure you wouldnt jusdge a girl completly on their their sizings either you just need to find the right girl
hope that helps xx d
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 Learn Chinese.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 my female friend said girth is mor important than length because if its wide she can feel it but then then not
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): I wouldn't worry about it too much, size does matter, anyone who says it doesn't is a liar. Most girls aren't hung up on it though because most guys don't have 8+ size dicks and most women don't orgasm from penetration anyway.
Girls do prefer bigger dicks that's a fact, because a big dick fills them and creates greater sensation over a larger area, makes sense right?
But there are plenty of other ways to pleasure a woman and any woman worth being with isn't going to mind about the size as long as you're able to pleasure her other ways. So master oral and manual stimulation and if you want to try those enlargening techniques then go for it, just remember that penetrative sex is not the be all and end all of a sexual relationship, I've had girlfriends that have never come from penetration no matter what the size of the penis, it doesn;t mean it's not a pleasurable experience for them.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 At 18, you aren't done growing just yet. Most people grow well in to their 20s. Adolescence doesn't actually come to a halt until the mid 20s. So don't despair if you think your penis is "too small", because there's a chance you will still grow.
Having said that, 4.5 inches is not a bad size. The average is actually more around 5 inches to 6 inches, so you're not doing too badly.
Not all women think the way this woman does, and if someone laughs at you for having a 4.5 inch penis, then it would be the same as laughing at someone for having blue eyes or brown hair or being short or tall. You are what you are, and people who laugh - even as a 'joke' - about other's physical appearance are often not that nice.
Generally, penis size shouldn't matter. Some women will only go for guys who are 'bigger', but for the average woman 4.5 inches should physically be perfectly fine, in terms of pleasure.
My ex had a 3 inch penis, and I have to say he definitely wasn't bad in bed. Just be confident of who you are, and there's also more than one way to satisfy your partner - and it doesn't have to involve your penis. So don't listen to your friend :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): Sounds like she said that on the spur of the moment to sound like she knew what she was talking about. Size really isn't important, you're right - it is the skills that count. Also, my last boyfriend grew 2 inches - from about 5 to 7 - in the 2 years we were together (so between the ages of 20 and 22). For all I know, he's still growing now (18 months later).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): yes I am afraid, like millions of other unlucky guys you are a little on the small side and will find difficulty in satisfying females with past. but try the jelq method as suggested.it might just work as you are still young. women in general like penises to be around 6-7" long but you can still find yourself a nice virgin female who hasn't had previous encounters who would be happy with 4 1/2".don't lose heart. you can always improve your other techniques but frankly nothing can compensate size as a moral booster for the male.
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reader, uncutdan +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Hey buddy, 4 inches IS on the small side. I used the jelq method and added several inches to mine. I started with 5 and now have 8 and did this in my 20's so you can do it too.
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reader, Mr Folk84  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 There is nothing like , if u have small penis u can not sexually please a girl on bed.Withwhomsoever , you ll go to bed , will not actually deny from having sex , Its upto you that you use that one chance of having sex.also you're just 18, your penis will grow until you are 24. 6 years more, it it'll grow until 6 inches at least. no worries.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (8 March 2010):
 It really depends on the woman, and if your friend is still young she aint really qualified to answer that.
Dont worry about it, your average size.
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