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writes:hi,when you fall in love with a freind, and he already loved you for so long, but now his love has gotten less.and you date for a little and he just says that he doesn't wanna ruin your freindship ! what can you do?i love him and he loves me (not as much as he used to).i told him how i feel but he didn't do anything about it!anyone could help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey again, this boy has loved me for 3 years. and not as a freind whenever he knew that i had a new boyfreind he would be so sad and jelous.and once we were together and i looked at him at told him i loved him, tears came to his eyes, and he huged me so hard that i couldn't breath, and i swear i heard his heart skip one beat.
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reader, aim  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 That's a tight situation. You say he has already loved you before, does that mean you knew or he just said it recently when he was already over you? If you knew, then the mistake was on your part since you did not entertain this feeling from him. Not necesarrily loving him or liking him back, but being able to talk about it etc etc. But if you did not know and just blurted it out recently... Try and talk about it and just chat how it began or ended. I guess you can't really do anything about it in terms of loving him back. **Unfortunately, whatever your answer means you can't have a real intimate relationship with him now. But at the least, you are still his friend. But maybe, just maybe, in the near or distant future you guys can still have a real relationship. Just stay friends with him for the time being and just let the chips fall where they should.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): If he really said that to you then LET IT GO. He said, "I love you but not as much as I used to" Pff. Forget him then. You are a fabulous woman and you should save your time and energy for someone who will love you forever. Why sweat him any longer. He doesn't know what he's missing. But the more you keep sweating him, the more he is going to feel that he is not that interested in you. So starting today, act like you could care less and like you are over him. I mean keep being friends with him. That is ok. But stop liking him. You can do better. A man actually worth your time is one who will be ecstatic that you like him back. And who will like you no less and perhaps MORE. So stop wasting your time on him.
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reader, int5  +, writes (13 November 2007):
well he may love you as a friend and nothing more. Its nothing personal but its best not to force anything cause in the end it wont work out. Hes probably saying he doesnt want to ruin the friendship cause he knows if he doesnt love you in that way then in the end you will only get hurt. At least hes being considerate in that sense. Friendships(good ones) are hard to find so dont miss out! best of luck to you
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