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writes: do teenage boys want to have sex wiv someone they love or dont they care? do they just want it wiv anyone on their first time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Speaking as an 18 teen year old virgin, I understand a boy's desire to lose thier virginity. Almost no two reasons are alike. Some view it in a pessamistic light, and feel that they need to lose their virginity now because they know thier first time will be unpleasant.
Others want to lose it because they feel they have found someone who they feel strongly for right now and do not want to risk giving up that chance only to find themselves older and with someone they do not feel as strongly for.
That ofcourse does not rule out the fellows that are having sex for the sake of the act. But also, most rule out the possibility of teenagers actually being mature enough to understand love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): yes! guys do want sex with someone they love! i mean im 13-15 years old.......sure me and my bf talk about it.....but i know for a fact that he would only do it because he loves me.....not because he wants too!!
guys do care about other things.....even if they dont act like it all the time!
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reader, bonym  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 My dear, I cannot possibly speak for all teenage boys, some want to have sex purely for the sake of it, some may genuinely in time develop strong feelings for a girl and want to have sex with her because he loves her. It really depends on the boy as all the other agony aunts have rightly said. You have been given some great advice already on this page,I dont think I need to add any more. Take care. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (23 May 2006):
 It depends on the individual really. But you shouldn't confuse sex with love. You can have a loving relationship without sex, and you can definitely have sex without a loving relationship. I don't even believe that most teens can know what love really is about - partly due to maturity issues, but most people have to have experienced at least a few relationships to know the difference between 'like' and 'love'. For instance, DrPsych the cynic used to say she didn't believe in real love between men and women in her jaded 20's, but then she met her husband and was silenced on the matter (a rare event!).
Teenagers are under tremendous pressure when it comes to sex, and having sexual knowledge. Boys are worse than girls because when they do surveys of adolescents on their sexual experiences it is always the case that more boys report being non-virgins than girls of the same age. Now this could mean that all teenage boys are running off with older women, or could mean they feel pressure to tell researchers they are 'men of the world' when they havent done anything. So, some boys may want sex within a loving relationship but many will want a girl so they can feel better about themselves especially in front of their mates. In some ways, first sex is more of an ordeal for boys than girls - without being too crude, boys have to put in more effort or performance than girls!
Anyway, whatever teen boys want is irrelevant to you. It should be all about when you want to have sex, and not when you are under pressure. You will feel a lot better about yourself if you say 'no' to anyone, and save it for someone special :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Pretty much anyone who's willing I'm afraid to say. I would say they would prefer it with someone they love, but at that age pretty much anyone will do.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Sorry but I could be wrong, but this question seems to be similar to one thats already been posted.. are you the same poster ? Is sex all boys think about.. In the answer I gave there, Its hard to say, alot of young boys want to get out there and put it about so to speak.. others are more reserved and sincere. You cant really say without knowing an individual what they are like, teenagers are young and impressionable and often do things on the spur of the moment, for the sake of doing it and to appear big to their friends, in the main I would say they dont really care, its the fact they are getting sex I suppose and want to know what its all about! You dont really see the significance of sex and the joys until you are older. If in doubt, dont do something you dont want to do, always wait until you are ready, dont do something just because they tell you that they love you!
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