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writes: I am pregnant by an ex.i told him and he has turned very nasty and doesnt want to be friends with me anymore,he already has a child of 9 by an ex and they dont get on but he puts up with her to see his child why is he dismissing his unborn child with me,i cant understand this, he is a great dad to his other child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): He doesn't want more responsibilities, or it's possible he thinks you're lying about the child being his. It's more likely it's the first one though.
That 9 year old child of his has been with him for 9 years, so it's quite a bit of a difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmans advice welcome
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Maybe given time he will come around. He may think that given he is an ex that the baby is a way of trapping him and its come as a bit of a shock to him. Let him calm down a bit and approach him, tell him that you think hes a great dad already and would really love for him to be as a great a dad to your baby. Try and ask him why hes being so nasty, and see if you cant work something out, it may just be an intial reaction. Make him understand that you have the best interests of the unborn baby at heart and you would really love if you could along, and that you really want your baby growing up knowing who is father is. Try and appeal to his lighter nature, you shouldnt have to but maybe flatter him a bit and tell him all the good bits about him, and hopefully slowly he will come around in time. Take it slowly and afterall he could be very different when the baby arrives.
I wish the best of luck in what happens and hope that things pan out for you, if all else fails you will at least give your baby all the love it needs and recieve love in return.
Take care
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