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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Do all relationships start with fire and sparks? I went out with a guy that I find very attractive. He treats me with respect and has a lot of the qualities that I am looking for in a partner. We have gone out a few times and the conversation flows well. But it's more of a drinking buddy conversation over a romantic flirty conversation. At the end of the night, I don't want the date to end. The problem is when he kisses me at the end of the night, he doesn't make my toes curl. It's actually very awkward. He's a lot taller than me so I've fallen over into him when I stood on my tippy toes. Luckily he was able to catch me. But even standing on a step, I feel awkward kissing him. In the past, when I kissed a guy that I liked for the first time, it was magic. With him, it always feels like a surprise that I'm not prepared for even though I know it's going to happen at the end of the night. Is this lack of chemistry? Is it that the conversation isn't putting me in "the mood"? One night I put my hand on his across the table and he immediately pulled it away. I didn't think he was interested in me. I was surprised when he leaned in to kiss me at the end of the night. Is this normal in the getting to know you stage or are we just not experiencing chemistry? Should I keep trying or accept that we don't physically click. We've been out 4x's in 1 month. No phone conversations.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 May 2010):
 Hmmm it doesn't sound like the makings of a great romance, but if you like him I think you should give it a chance. Maybe one or both of you is nervous or just so awkward. The height thing could make the first few getting to know each other kisses incredibly awkward. If down the line it turns out you don't have chemistry then you can decide.
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