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writes: I recently found out my husband is on meth. I'm in the process of divorcing him. We have a child together, so he gets supervised visitation, at which time he often tells me he misses me and still loves me. Even though I have no intentions of taking him back, I still cry a lot, because I can't believe what he did to my family. I just need reassurance that I did the right thing. Reply to this Question
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reader, browneyedsusan +, writes (13 February 2006):
browneyedsusan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all of you who responded. It mean't more to me than you know.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Due to my job I see both sides of what drugs do to people, on one hand there is the damage to family, friends, and loved ones then there is the damage the person does to themselves.
Drugs take over peoples lives and they will never be the same again.
You have done the right thing, your ex is getting help in the form of methadone and to get this he must be seeing a drug worker, he is doing what he can but it is a long road and one that drug users fall off many times.
You need to ensure he sees his child, but only when he is on meth, if he starts using then acess must stop this is easier if it is supervised vistits, is there a social worker involved as they may be able to link in with his drug worker this way if he starts using it is easier to get the acess adjusted, and social services may be able to help you with any other issues you may have like housing or money, if there was any debt or housing arrears they can oftern get you advice on this.
You remain strong, reading between the lines and with the knowledge of drugs that I have, I am sure you have been to hell and back as has he in his own way, you are on the road to a new life, one that does not involve going without to feed someones habit.
Good luck to you and my thougts are with both of you and your child.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (13 February 2006):
 You have to live with the decision you have made.
But make sure you made that decision with all the FACTS in front of you.
Above all remember that your child is the most important thing. I think that this isn't a problem for you tho, cos I think you have probably made the right choice.
You are going through a stage were you have to grieve for the *what might have been* if he hadn't have been a drug abuser.
I feel for you and wish you strength and luck.
xxx
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reader, chrissymarie +, writes (13 February 2006):
 you did the right thing......drugs and family dont go together, he could of hurt u our ur child u did the right thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): you did do the right thing, never doubt what you did hun.
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