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writes:I'm falling in love with this guy. It is an odd situation, he is my x husbands sister's x husband. We maintained a respectful friendship for many years, I admit I was attracted to him for many years but I never flirted and he never did either. Our marriages ended about 2 years apart, mine first. After his failed and he divorced he called me to say hi and that if we could meet for dinner, I accepted. We live about 100 miles apart. He is very very respectful to me. It's not like he was seeking anything but a night out with an old friend. Nothing sexual occurred or came up. We met again a few moths later, he's still alone and so am I. it was another nice date. We had another date or 2 where nothing sexual happened. Then it all happened when he walked me to my car and kissed me goodbye after another pleasant date. I couldn't help myself, I kissed him back tonging him and all, I could not resist. I could tell he liked it, so I asked him to think about me, maybe we could have a little fun. He laughed and said I'm glad you asked. We met a few times for basically dinner and sex. I told him I was falling for him last week. He said he was too, said it could be weird even though we're all divorced, we still have to consider our kids, all who are in their early to mid 20's. We like each other a lot, but I see his point. He said that for now this is very exciting and fun being with me in a way he never dreamed. He said I think we should just stay with what we have for now. He said he is not involved with anyone and likes what we have. So do I but I want to keep him. I know he's falling for me, and I don't want to ruin it. I haven't felt this good or desired in my life, I'm not considered a beautiful woman. Should I go with the flow or should we cool it because of our kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2013): Your situation is not really all that uncommon. When people know each other for a long time as in a situation you have, it could be a more powerful attraction that was building up for years. You said you were attracted and he had to be attracted to you too, why else would he call you.If your enjoying the sex with him stay with it, if not then let him go and move on,it's nobody elses business. I think he may want time to figure out how to handle the family or he could be stalling for time while using you for sex, this is something you really need to find out. My sister was caught having an affair with her brother in law, there were no children involved but it destroyed their marriages. She's still with him, married to him for 10 years and she's say's she never been this happy in a relationship. I see they do click very well and love each other very much. I thought it was weird when it came out into the open, guess you never know who could sweep you off your feet.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (14 November 2013):
 I can understand him (and you) not wanting to tell the children at an early stage - so maybe he just wants to be more confident that your relationship has legs before telling them. However he can't keep you a secret forever, and the children are now young adults - they will be able to handle it.
You know this man, do you think that going with the flow might end up with you in a secret FWB situation? I suppose that's the worst case scenario.
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