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writes: I have been with my girlfriend for almost a month now, and when I call her we end up being in the call for almost an hour, but most of the time it's really quiet. One time, we went 56 minutes without talking at all, besides saying "hey". Then we start texting each other during the call on how pathetic it feels, not having a topic to talk about but being able to text more then words that come out of our mouths when we speak to each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2013): Hey look phone calls can be awkward especially between people of your age group. When I was between 17-19 I used to have really long (3 hours or so) phone conversations nightly with a long distance girlfriend and in all fairness I used to dread them quite a bit, especially in the beginning, because I never knew what to talk about, I didn't want to bore her with stuff I did at college that day, etc. Often she would just make up words and stuff and be really silly so that made it easier as she was a bit of a nutter. I on the otherhand was probably a bit straight laced and boring. Anyway I used to (and still do) find talking in person (and text messaging/emailing!!) so much easier; there's stuff going on around you that can inspire the conversation, and facial expressions/body language can be relied upon. And as you get older its easier as you have more things to talk about I guess, albeit often more serious stuff :p I think now at 27 I would struggle to be on the phone with anyone for an hour now and I look back in amazement of our 3 hour + phone conversations we used to have. If I were to ever have to talk to a girl I'd just met on the phone at night these days I think a beer or 2 would be essential to alleviate the nerves. Obviously you're a bit young for that so i don't recommend it! However just try to relax and talk about things that may be mundane - weather, what you did today, how annoying your family are being, any gossip and scandal you've heard, etc) but at least it will get the conversation flowing and things will spring to mind as you're both talking.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (14 November 2013):
 If you have nothing to say, then just text. If there's nothing to text, then don't. But what's the point of sitting in silence like that?
Tell her that you have to run and you'll text/call her before bed to say goodnight. You don't have to talk on the phone for hours on end.
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