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Ditch my boyfriend and go out with her?

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Question - (4 January 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 11 January 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have been having feelings for one of my girlfriends and at first I didn't know if it was me sick to my stomache or if it was a crush. Turns out she was bisexual and had a crush on me. Many times she tried to have sex with me. But I had a boyfriend. One day I started having feelings for her but then she told me she wasn't anymore so I gave up but I still had a little bit of feelings for her. Well she is a total lesbian now and wants to know if I want to go out with her. So should I?

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A female reader, scorpian lady United Kingdom +, writes (11 January 2009):

If you need to ask if you should be with her, I'm not sure she is the one for you. However if you and your boyfriend are done then why not finish with him and see what the future holds for you. Going from one relationship straight into another is probably not wise.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009):

I am into this situation now.. what a bad days that I am going thru. It's hard to believe this can happen in my life.. I don't know how to move on.. We had some argument on compromising on my families society. I had trouble finding her serious, so one day I freaked out, I told her move on and she did.... she started to be a lady of AMERICAN guy.

Now I am crying.. I tried many times to convince myself that my destiny is not her but still the memories of 2 years pains, I don't know how to move on...

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A female reader, Little Lisa United Kingdom +, writes (4 January 2009):

Only you can answer this question. In a way it's simple, who do you have stronger feelings for? If it's her, I'd speak to her, make sure this is what she really wants, she's changed her mind once before. If it is what she wants, go with your heart.

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A female reader, i_am_anonymous United Kingdom +, writes (4 January 2009):

if this is the first girl you have had feelings for that are strong, then you have to question yourself.

have you only got feelings for this girl because you found out she liked you, or because your curious?

many women get curious from time to time, but it might not be worth leaving your boyfriend for, as it may never work out.

if this girl is a close friend of yours then i think you should sit down and talk to her, tell her how you feel.

if she is ok with you trying new things with her but still staying with your boyfriend until you have made up your mind on how you feel, then i think that would be best for you.

it is going to take a lot of courage to end something you have with a guy, to experiment your feelings with a girl.

it is best to have a taster of it first instead of jumping straight into it.

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