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writes:Can a relationship work when in different religions? I feel like even the most accepting catholic would not make it with a jew or friend because different religious beliefs could be the cause of conflict. what do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Kuroneko  +, writes (27 February 2009):
It depends on how strongly you believe in your religion and your personality as well. Raising children - if you believe in an afterlife, then the fate of your partner... That might cause problems.And pertaining to personality, I have found personally that a dating relationship with a friend of mine would never work because of how his morals conflicted with mine. They were not strongly in contrast but he cared less about them than I did - not in an insensitive way, but he just did not understand - and me with my personality found that a problem and a source of conflict. I don't know if he realizes it... Even now, as merely friends, I still get frustrated because of this reason. Even a slight clash, I find, is like...two lines, not quite parallel...they'll meet at a steeper angle the further down the lines you'll go.But I'm sure some people can manage to work things out between them. The above is only from my personal experience, nothing more.Good luck to you. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): I am a Christian, and my boyfriend is an Agnostic. We have agreed to never try to change the others beliefs. He respects me and my beliefs and I respect him and his beliefs.
My son's father (and my exhusband) is Jewish (not really religous) Religion was never a problem for us, neither of us was practicing any religion. Every holiday season we would get a Christmas Tree and put a Monorah in the window right next to the tree.
The only way I see it could be a problem is if both people were devout in their religion and felt that the other's was wrong! That could cause problems, especially if there were children to be raised!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): This depends if you believe your lover will go to hell after s/he dies. If you do, well, it makes your relationship strained. UNLESS your partner is an agnostic, atheist or an unlabeled spiritualist. If that is the case, then it's just a one-sided belief. Hell would not exist for your lover regardless.
My friend's parents are of different religions. The dad is Christian and the mom is Buddhist. My other friend was baptized as a Christian and his wife is a Buddhist. My other friend is agnostic and his girlfriend is Christian. I also have another friend who is a non-practicing Roman Catholic who is engaged to a non-practicing Christian.
You have to remember: what is religion to you? Is it a massive story that is used to teach good things in life or do you literally believe in them as historical facts? If it's the first, then you two have nothing to worry about. If it's the second, then there will always be some difficulties. Alas, like I said, this depends on your outlook, personal solidity and willingness to learn from each other, maybe even compromise.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 hello,
i am married to a man that has different religion than mine.
and i don't like when we start talking about religion because i don't agree about some believe and he doesn't believe mine.but we always respect each other and any one worship the way he wants.and happy with each other ,and we love each other .also i want you know that this change from personality to another and from strong to weak believes.
if you are with man that has weak believes or not religious you will not have any problem.
or the good solution for this is that you don't interfere religion in your relationship.
good luck
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