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*overman86
writes:right I really need some help. Everything I do sexually to pleasure my girlfriend doesn't work. It has worked for other girls but it doesn't with her. i've gone down on her, fingered her, had sex with her, she says she can feel it but she doesnt know what pleasure is... nothing is working. help me please i cant stop thinking about this Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 The "anonymous" reader posting below definitely has the right idea, and writes well too ! "Tisha-1" always provides good suggestions. All the previous suggestions and thoughts are very well put, but I would add that to become a great lover as a man, you have to learn how to explore a woman's sexuality. It does not really matter whether she has experienced orgasm before. I have met women over age 50 and 60 who have only recently experienced their first. The reader suggesting you "take it slow" is exactly right. No need to ever hurry lovemaking, which certainly requires a couple of hours or better yet, much more than that and a couple of times an evening. Just explore her with passion.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 February 2009):
 The aunt "DoubleM" has written many answers that may be of some help to you. You can type his name into the search box up on the top along with 'orgasm' and you should get some Q/A threads that may help you with her.
The trouble is that she doesn't know what pleases her, if I've read this correctly. Has she every brought herself to orgasm? If not, then this may be very difficult for you.
If you can stand it, don't think of it as an insult please, but using a vibrator as a means of showing her what an orgasm feels like will help you then figure out how to do it together.
And if she says she does enjoy sex with you, do believe her. It's just that she hasn't figured out how to have an orgasm, that's all.
The other aunts have provided some great food for thought here too.
Good luck, and good for you for caring about her pleasure.
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reader, green treat +, writes (21 February 2009):
Hi there, well I understand your situation because it was the same for me and my boyfriend when we first started.. and you've probably heard it before but you have to experiment and see what is best for her..when you are doing stuff ask her where she preferes it, and what pleasures her the most. If that still doesn't help ask her what really turns her on and this may be the foundation that you can work on in order to build it up. but dont worry take your time because a girl has to be comfortable in order for her to build up pleasure..the key here is the more comfortable she is with you the more likely she is to get pleasure out of it =)..I hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): every girl is different.you just need to take it slow, and i mean really slow. That way if you do something that really hits the spot you'll know exactly what it was you were doing at the time. Get her to talk too, if she likes something your doing but wants it slightly different then encourage her to tell you what to do like slower, lighter, harder etc. just keep experimenting, a little patience will go a long long way. Like when your going down on her, try different movements with your tongue in different places.Don't worry so much, things will heat up soon enough, just keep varying your techniques, and there are plenty of websites and books out there to give you lots of ideas!have fun!
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