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writes:Heres my problem, my girlfriend and I have been dating for many many years. We get along great, hardly ever fight. We share similiar values, religious, and political views. The commonalities end there. We don't like to do anything the other person does, and I feel that this is slowly driving us apart. This week she asked me if she could go hang out with a new guy friend, and from what she tells me theres a lot in common. I told her its up to her, I could use any advice with that or the relationship Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): It is not good that she is seeking another man out for her interests. It means there is somethng missing in your relationship.. Try new hobbies together. my husband loves to fish I think its ok but I go all the time, we have fun and are together, he hates the movies but he goes because he wants to make me happpy. Its all an equal give and take. If she needs more give her more. There has to be a few things you like to do together otherwise this guy could sweep her off her feet because hes new and interesting, you should act fast.But if she wants to hang out wih him she can, you dont live together and your not married. Women do not like boring men who dont like to do anything but take naps and watch football or you will get dumped then wonder what happened. Surprize her with a trip to the zoo or a park or a picnic lunch whatever it is but always keep her thinking wow this guy is great and likes to have fun and try new things.... go for it. Try to do what she likes. Then if you really dont like anything then find someone new...
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reader, H-Caring  +, writes (25 October 2009):
Its completely healthy and normal to have different interests but there also has to be give and take. For example at work if you are asked to do something you don't particularly like then you still feel the need to do it because it is your place of employment and the same should be applied to any relationship. Have you and your girlfriend discussed what it is you dont like about the other person's hobbies or interests? Maybe that would be a start as then any concerns could be put to rest. As long as you love eachother then this will be easy to overcome you may just need to apply more communication and slightly more effort to try and get involved in the other person's interests.
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