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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now and we began having sex about 5 months into our relationship.The problem is it seems like the sex isn't interesting to either one of us anymore. I mean she says she enjoys it, and maybe she does. Maybe I'm the one with the problem, but it just doesn't seem to satisfy either one of us. Is it possible we have had sex to early in our relationship and too often? Is it possible for the passion to already be burning out? And if so how can we fix the problem? Please help thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (21 September 2012):
 It's normal, and not a result of having sex too early or too often. The "spark" can't last forever - eventually that intense sexual excitement fades. It doesn't mean you don't love each other or find pleasure in the experience, it just means the intensity is decreased because there is less novelty.There are multiple things you can try, and lots of books on the subject. I think most people find that sex changes as the relationship continues. It may be less intense, but it can take on some very wonderful new aspects too as you develop a deep degree of trust in the other person.The important thing to remember here is that this feeling doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, your girlfriend, or your relationship. It's normal and happens in nearly every relationship that lasts. It's OK and natural to feel the way you do.Have you talked to your girlfriend about it? In addition to getting a book on the subject, which might have some ideas, you could talk with her about it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): Yes, it's about time u guys started to cool off. It's called habituation time. It has nothing to do with how often and how soon you started having sex with each other, people ussualy don't wait that long, its just that romance runsit's course.
Ussualy it takes from 6 to 18 months to loose this first incredible passion. Novelty goes away, thats why you don't feel the same as in a beginning anymore.
People need to be very creative to keep interest to each other in that area for many years, when they get married and then the whole life ahead of them with the same person.
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