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writes:I actually need your help. Im confused so much and Im seriously getting upset about it. There is this boy and don't stop reading this.. this isnt just some teenage matter. I fancied him for so long, like 2 years and i tried everything to get him to like me. We used to sit in lessons together and he used to flirt and then would go off with other girls and wouldn't care about me. This christmas, I decided 'Im done with it all'... so I went to school today and totally avoided him. We were only in school for the morning because of snow so i didn't have any lessons with him like supposed... which i was dreading anyway. I tried not to think about him but then he came over.. He said 'Hiya, have a nice christmas? What did you get?' And i just said 'Yeah was good, nothing much' and walked off. He knew something was up. I felt so bad.. Its like i missed him... He was right in front of me and i missed him so much :( I was sitting in the main hall and i saw him looking at me from the corner of my eye.. i gave him eye contact for a little while and that when it happened.,, I felt a massive stab in my heart.. and thats when I knew.. Im not over him. I have never felt that way about any other person and I always said he was the one for me. Everyone thinks im over him and now im blanking him. What do I do? I need him, not just as a friend? I messed everything up :( Please help... is how i have felt true/?? IM CONFUSED.
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reader, traycee! +, writes (5 January 2010):
most of the time we don't give off the way we really feel. For some reason we do this hiding our emotion thing. It feels safer behind a flippant remark or a stupid joke. Then we spend hours asking ourselves why we said that and how things would be if we said what we really felt. This is not just an age thing I'm afraid I'm 37 and I still do this all the time. I'm doing it right now if truth be told. This is about you though not about me, so try to realise that it's not the end of the world what you did and if anything you probably made him more keen, you missed him, so you were overwhelmed by the first sight of him and that's ok. The next time you hook up though try to be a bit more of the way you wish you had been that ime. that should work. good luck.
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reader, Blod +, writes (5 January 2010):
 I don't blame you for what you did. It's hard getting over someone. There's no magic switch that makes you get over someone in an instant. So of course you haven't got over him.
Blanking him would be a start to getting over him, but it would've been better to blank him unless he made an effort to speak to you. It doesn't matter though. What's done is done.
I think you need to talk to him. You've probably totally confused him. He might have thought you were a friend or that you fancied him, and now you've blown him out the water completely! Best thing to do would be to let him know how you feel. That's the only way he's going to understand why you've been behaving this way and what you want. He'll know where he stands. That would be the first step to take, then just wait to see what follows.
I hope I've been of help. Best of luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 January 2010):
You don't just decide to get over someone at Christmas and it all be fine by Jan the 4th!!
Of course it's going to be hard. But you just have to keep trying I'm afraid. You are going to go through several stages and weak points and lots of things, but you can't let the first day ruin everything.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): i advise you to talk to the boy as he probably does not relise how you feel about him tell him how you feel apologise to him too
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