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*madeusXXI
writes:I've known this girl since the start of December. A friend of my cousin, I added her as a friend on facebook and since we've exchanged messages back and forth nearly every day, talking on chat, then MSN, textinge etc, etc We met up recently and that went great.We've became good friends and I've let her know plenty of times that I think she's pretty. (Though she doesn't believe me, but I'm told this is a typical female thing.) But she didn't pick up the hint that I'm attracted to her.So, on the advice of my cousins girlfriend. I tell her how I feel, she tells me she's stunned and doesn't know what to say. After a while I ask her how she feels about me... I can't remember her words exactly but they're along the lines of."You're a amazing friend. I don't know how I feel about you yet though so at the time, it's a no - I'm sorry. But if my feelings change I'll let you know straight away."Now, is this just an easy way of her rejecting me rather than give me a full out no, she's a really nice girl so I wouldn't be surprised if it was.Also I don't really want to bring it up in the future anymore in case I appear pushy and make our friendship awkward, since we are talking to each other as much anymore either. One other factor is, three months ago she came out of a relationship with her first serious boyfriend who messed her around. Having going through my own serious break-up this year. I kinda suspect she isn't 100% over her ex.Anyway that's my story... Anyone provide any help because I really like this girl but, I don't want to have a hook hanging out in front of me with a false promise.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (2 January 2011):
I'm not really sure what you're missing--but she did give you a flat out "no."
"You're a amazing friend. I don't know how I feel about you yet though so at the time, it's a no - I'm sorry. But if my feelings change I'll let you know straight away."
There's really nothing to decipher here. She likes you as a friend and nothing more. The only letting you down softly part is letting you know if her feelings change. Sorry to let you down again...but if she liked you back she would like you now. Sometimes it does happen and over time she may like you--but just consider it done for now and move on.
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