Did my text ruin our chance to renew our relationship?

A female age 36-40, *j writes:

Sorry that it is a little long, anyway i dated this guy for a few months he lost his job and i helped him out but after a while i could not take it anymore he just started asking me for money over and over again i felt like his mother, but i still stayed with him i have no idea why, so he got a new job, bought a new car and that is when things started to change he stopped paying me as much attention and he started to hang out with his guy friends more, i got fed up and i broke up with him. He came over like a week later to get his things and he said that he knew that he was not treating me right and that he was sorry he said that he will not be getting into any relationship anytime soon, but then two weeks later he tells me that he is talking to someone else, i never said anything. I moved on but a month after we talked he called me saying that he wanted to get back together, he is sorry and that he misses me, so i told him to come over and talk he did and he wanted sex i was like "what the hell" it never happened he stayed a little and we talked after a week later he came over again and we had sex he left for work the next day and i tried calling him he never answered, so i sent him a email telling him that he is a selfish soon of a gun and a practical loser do not call text or visit meagain. I moved on started going out on dates and stuff and then like 3 weeks later he texts me saying that he is really ready for a relationship, that he lost his phone and that he just got a new one and that he ws sad with the email that i sent him and that he still loved me and he asked me if i still loved him, i told him that i cannot answer that, and that if he is ready h will have to prove it, he said that he wanted to come over and talk and i told him ok (dumb me) so when he came over we started talking and he said that he really missed me, that he still loves me and that he is a changed man that he will try to be that caring guy that he used to be in the beginning, to me he was really sincere, he stayed over and we had sex he asked me how it was, " why would he ask me that? he has never before" i am an honest person so i told him it was okay, he was like ok i was like yea, so the next day he went to work and he told me that he would call which he did on his lunch break asking me what i was doing and so on, he did not come over that night and the next day i sent him a text telling him that i did not have the same connection with him and the sex was the same old sex no difference that he is o self centered and that i need excitement and he is just not the one for me, do you think he was being sincere trying to make the relationship work? and did i ruin that chances by sending him that text?

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