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writes:My girlfriend left me nearly a month ago now after we've been dating for 3 years. We had the most amazing relationship, We both had what we've always wanted in someone, she'd even tell me that I'm better than what she's always desired in a man. Then beginning of last month she leaves me because she doesn't feel ready but at the same time she mentioned that I've been too obsessive of her and always upset about things going on in my life. I highly think it has more to do with her not feeling ready considering we're pretty young and she's a lot younger than me. However one thing I've observed she never brought up nor mentioned if it anyway contributed to the break up. She said she had the breakup on her mind for a while but the month prior to her breaking up with me and ever since we got back together last june after our last breakup, we've never had any conflicts with eachother, everything was wonderful.The event that changed it all happened March 2nd the night I took my sister to the mall because she needed to get out of the house and get some comfort. She's in an abusive relationship and that night I took her home her bf was furious about this letter he read talking smack about him and he grew pissed and hit my sister in front of me, he then wanted to see my mom who was with us waiting in the car so I ran down to her defense if needed but luckily he didn't hurt her. We didn't call the cops and just left. I told this to my gf and the next day she completely changed, she didn't even care to talk to me then a week later she dumps me. She never mentioned this incident as being the cause for the breakup but it sure feels like it. I feel like she expected me to defend my sister. Is this something that would cause a girl to breakup with a guy regardless of how wonderful he is? I need to know, and if so what can I do to change it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): Every woman wants to know that their man can protect them, even if he can't, they want to know that he'll do everything he possibly can to try to protect them. If you can't stand up and protect your sister, why would your ex think that you would do any differently for her?
I don't know you, how big you are, how big he is or the circumstances... but I know that if somebody hit my sister in front of me... (provided he didn't have a gun or a knife), I'd be all over him even if he was John Cena or King Kong.
So yeh, I certainly think it would have contributed to the end of the relationship. I reckon there would have been other issues tho and this would have just been the final straw that broke the camels back. I really can't think of any way that you can win her back, sorry. Moments like the one you had don't come along every day, but when they do in future, step up, be a man and protect your loved ones.
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