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writes:ok im 19 and have been going out with my boyfrend MD for 3 years. We were perfect for the first year and a half but he moved away for 6 months and things have never got back to normal, its like were just stayin 2gether for the sake of it.. Weve been together so long that were all one big gang like some of his best friends are my best friends now 2 and i dont want to lose them. I no hel never break up with me but i dont no how to break up with him cus i do care about him but i cant stand him or have him touching me. Now just to complicate things, years ago i was going out with AA, another boy, whos best friend was RS, who is hot. We were goin out for like a month and he was way over the top saying i love u whatever so i broke up with him.(we were 15) About a week later i kissed RS at a concert and everyone went mad. Skin forward about a year and i was kissing MD (current boyfrend) who is also friends with RS. RS and i havent talkd properly since the thing with AA and i meet him and MD in town. MD and i havent talkd in about a month and he sed he was going out that night. Later that nyt i see RS but MD wasn't with him. I dont no how it happened but we were holding hands after a while, its really weird bcos we never plan it but its like hes a magnet and i get so attracted sometimes!! anyway we went off and kissed but at the time i didn think it was such a big deal cus me and MD hadnt reli happenede anyway, we had been texting but not for ages so i thought no Biggie. Just after, MD started textn me again all the time. 6 months later i told him about me and RS and he went mad but was fine about it and didnt consider it cheating. He was made at RS tho, even tho RS didnt no that MD new. They stopped talking over a cuple of things but always got back talking to her. There was a few times RS wud look at me or somwthing but i never thought anything of it. We went on group holiday to spain last august and on the first night me and RS had a huge talk. I dont remember properly but i told him that MD new and stuff and i no that RS told me loads about his life and he cried and sed MD was lucky to have me, im pretty sure we told each other we liked each other but i cant remember but i no i said that nothing cud happen. I was out for my bday on sunday night and my boyfriend went home earli, without telling anyone! all the girls apart from me and my best frend went home and we were just with the boys in town. My best friend, PC was kissing MD's best friend SC so me, RS, PC, SC and 2 others made out way to RS's house which is nearby. It was just the 4 of us becos the others went home and we were in his shed. Our frends were kissing so we were just talking and laughing and it was so much fun, im a beauty therapist and he was giving me a foot massage and tickling me and stuff and i just felt so happy. Iv had a reli tough year college wise and all my BF does is make fun of me and call me boring but RS was so different. He kept giving me these looks and i felt so pretty and happy. Our friends had fallen asleep so we were talkin a lot but still a bit wary. RS went inside and brought out a bottle of wine, making jokes about making it romantic. He didnt actually try to kiss me but i no he wanted tp and to be hinest i wanted him to. I dont want to cheat and my boyfriend but i wouldnt have stopped him if he kissed me. He starteed to talk about spain aswel, but i cut him off, i think he wanted to talk about what the story was between us. The thing is i dont no him that well at all its just like a reli much attraction sometimes, but i wonder why it always seems to be the wrong timing. Ryans has had his fair share of trouble with drink driving, drugs etc but nothing worse then me. I just dont love MD anymore but dont no what to do, would i eer be able to be with RS without everyone hating me?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 The post was a bit confusing with all the names, but I think the most important information that came across is that you dont really want your current boyfriend any more. And that is fine, sometimes things dont work out. Break up with him. Then after all that mess is over with, and you have recovered from the breakup (because it will hurt like any other breakup) look at things anew. You dont know right now how things will be in the future, after all is said and done and you are single again. You might or you might not hook up with this other guy. You might find someone better. The bottom line is that you want out of the relationship you are currently in. If you feel that this can't go on you are only dragging it out and for what? If his friends truly have become your friends, why would they not be your friends after the breakup? Things wont be the same, and I know most likely you will loose some or find yourself outside of the circle you used to be in, but thats how it goes. You know you can't stay with a man just beause his friends are nice.
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