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writes:Me and my girlfirend were doing a lot of foreplay on each other today when out of the blue her back arches, eyes close very tightly and she makes a bit of a grunting scream. She claims it was an orgasm but I was wandering is this an orgasm or is she just trying to make me think I'm good at foreplay? Also if you could describe what happens when a woman orgasms so I can spot it in the future that would be great, cheers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Her pc muscle will spasm or even her whole body depending on the strength of the orgasm.
http://www.ideagasms.net/historygasms/
The link shows a real orgasm but small orgasms could be exactly what your g/f had. But you should always listen to her.
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reader, andy747  +, writes (28 March 2009):
when a girl orgasms, her face, neck, and area around her neck will get red, like she's blushing. depending on how long it lasts, her forehead will also start to sweat. her back arching, grabbing the sheets, etc., and making noises are also signs, but ones that can be easily "faked." not all girls have "loud" orgasms, and some are very subtle, so depending on the girl it's not always easy to tell. if it's really important to you (i know it's embarassing) but you have to ask, and ask her to be honest, or better yet, ask her what you need to do to give her one. some girls don't even know what an orgasm feels like because they've never had one before. it's not easy but the best thing to do is to really talk to her about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Good luck with this one. Outside of her, no one really knows whether she had an orgasm or not.
Some questions:
1) Is there any reason for her to fake an orgasm? Have you put a lot of pressure on her to orgasm? Might you have been doing something that hurt her and she wanted to end the heavy-petting sooner?
2) Did you notice her pelvic floor muscles contracting repeatedly or her shaking/shivering uncontrollably? Those are pretty accurate signs of orgasm.
If you feel that she might have been faking to make you feel better. Have a conversation (not bringing up that incident) where you say you want to get to learn her body, and that the only way you can do that is if she makes the good sounds when it actually feels good, and not do anything if she's not enjoying it. Faking orgasms only hurts you both in the end, you could be doing something horribly wrong but she fakes an orgasm everytime and you think you're some sort of sexual genius.
But, really, I'd say to take the pressure off the orgasm question. If you both seem to be having a good time, whether either of you orgasm isn't so important.
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