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*heekyl
writes:Last weekend I went out with my husband to Elle my work colleagues birthday drinks in the city. Elle had invited her boyfriend, work colleagues and other friends, after quite a few drinks in the first bar we left to another pub. Later that evening I was dancing and I could hear my name being called out. I turned and realised it was Elle. When Elle got my attention she was standing closely in front of my husband and she danced provocatively in front of him while facing me. I turned away straight away pretty much, but soon afterwards i felt a tap on my shoulder and it was my husband joining me.I dont know what to make of it all? or is there nothing to be concerned about? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 You could bring it up in a joking manner like:
"Had a ton to drink the other night, eh? I think I saw you dancing on my husband." (Laugh)
Chances are she doesn't remember, she will hide her face in embarrassment and apologize all day long. Then you move on and don't hold it against her.
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reader, cheekyl +, writes (14 February 2011):
cheekyl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your thoughts...
We arent competitive at work and there had been alot of alcohol that night. I did think to myself was there a possibility she did not know he was behind her but then from where i was looking she was doing a dance like he was a stripper pole.
Anyhow i did try to talk to my husband about it but he says he cant remember it at all. Im wondering if i should say anything to her? She may not even remember either? we are shift workers and todays the first time i would have seen her.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 February 2011):
How good of friends are you with Elle? Maybe you two are competitive at work?
It also depends on how much she had to drink that night as well. Although, no matter her state of inebriation she is still held accountable for her actions. I would say it was nothing but dancing (this is of course you two aren't rivals at work). Perhaps she wasn't aware that your husband was behind her. It's not like she grabbed his hands to put on her waist and gyrated to a hip hop song.
I would just dismiss her behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Wow, what a childish way for this woman to behave! Honestly, it's like she still thinks she's in the playground. I wouldn't worry too much about this if you have no other reason to think there's anything going on. It sounds like she was possibly drunk and just being stupid. Your husband must have been placed in quite a position by it: it's not like, as a guy, he can easily say 'Hey that's inappropriate' to the birthday girl! and it sounds like he returned to your side just as soon as he could extricate himself. I would maybe suggest sitting down and having a talk with him about it just so he understands how this episode made you feel. Make it clear that you don't blame him for it happening, but that you nonetheless feel a bit uncomfortable about it. Chances are, he'll tell you you have nothing to worry about and explain that he was equally enbarrassed by the whole thing! Use it as a chance to make your relationship stronger by communicating your feelings, rather than allowing this to drive you apart with unwarranted suspicion.
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