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writes:Hey everyone. So I am a closeted guy who has a crush on a guy who is closeted. I know he is gay and not out because of something I found(another story). Anyways, number one, I feel that he does not like me back. Number two I feel that he has feelings for my ex who I was with for a year. It hurts that he does not like me back and it hurts more that he may like my ex. I would appreciate if you all could give me advice on how to deal with not being liked back by a guy who I like and how to get over the idea that he may like my ex. The thought of them two together really bothers me and I feel like it is a problem that it bothers me so much. I know that I have to realize that my crush is single and free to date and like who he wants but accepting that is a bit hard. Thanks in advance for your advise!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you!!!!!! you really helped a lot! xoxo
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 what you have is a combination of new crush jealousy and old boyfriend jealousy merging into something massive. first of all have you considered that this guy is not into you because he is not aware you are gay?
if you really want to get over someone the best advice i can give is stay away from them, as someone you love but cant have is a stimulus and when they trigger feelings in you you go back to the initial jealousy/pain. better to not trigger this and find someone new.
your real problem is you are in the closet and this gives you less options so you feel like this new closet guy is a much more important ship setting sail than he really is.
come out and open your options up
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