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anonymous
writes:So here's my problem: Six months ago my boyfriend and I (lets call him A) of one and a half years broke up. For some reason, I thrived to have another person with me at all times so I instantly went to my old boyfriend (lets call him B) for support. B and I dated for 4 years before A. So even though I needed and wanted to be single I could not make myself sleep alone at night, no matter who was there. So I began to flirt with everything that moved, causing me to have multiple people texting me and asking me to do things every day. But for some reason I just couldn't find what I was looking for. And then I started even "dating" a girl (yes I am Bisexual..lets call her C). I am now in this position where I am either always with B or always with C and it has started to really get to me, because I feel like I am hurting both of them because I cannot chose between them. But in the end I really do not want to choose.I know that is wrong. Everyone tells me I need to just let go of everyone and be single but I am pretty sure I cannot do that. Just so every one is aware, A's break up caused me to go into a sort of depression state. I know I do not want to go back with A but I still have such a glorified view of our relationship and when I look at both B and C I do not think that they can live up to it. Maybe because I never had a complete closure with A? I dont know. B gives me comfort that no one else does, but is that just because I am so used to him? But honestly it is hard for me to do anything sexual with him and I am not sure why. And C can support me in every way possible, but she just seems too perfect. What do you all think I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): mmm I think you should be honest with both B and C tell them that you are seeing other people and that you are not exclusive if they say ok then change nothing and be with both of them or if they say no then you have to choose one of them and about A i think that you should let it go and if you two were meant to be it would not end up the first place.....
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 February 2011):
 So being single isn't an option even though it's the best one because you're still not over A. The break-up is too raw. You don't have to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at all times, you just think you do. It's possible to be single and happy. Give yourself time to really move on from A.
However, you probably don't agree so let's look at who you could date for the time being. Have you ever had a relationship with a girl? If not, then choose C call it an experimental time for you. Or choose B if you're not ready for a girlfriend.
Either way you have to pick B or C before they get tired of being strung along and then you're left with no one. Which may not be as bad as you think.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (14 February 2011):
You can't be sexual with your first boyfriend because you have grown with him. From your age and the years you mention I guess you started dating him when you were 14. So basically he is like a brother.
If your C is bisexual too, you can send her with B and let you have A.
Or else, you can put C and A together and have an incestuous relationship with B.
:)
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