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writes: I know I kind of asked this question a little while ago. But, it keeps resurfacing in my mind. I broke up with my fiance a month or so ago, but I want to know if he proposed just so I would feel better about having sex before marriage? We had sex before we were engaged, but I always felt bad about it because it was against my beliefs. Once we got engaged, he asked, "Don't you feel better about sleeping with me now?" I know he loved me and wanted to marry me, but did he just propose so we could have sex?
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 You say you had had sex before you became engaged so it doesn't sound like he proposed just to have sex with you. It sounds more like he just wondered if you felt better about it!
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reader, gmapeaches  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 I agree with last answerer.. move on.. no one could answer this for you but him and he probably won't tell you the truth.. it is done and over.. move on find a new guy and don't be so quick to throw away your beliefs for anyone.. someone who loves you respects what you believe in.. i always told my daughter.. don't do anything you don't want to do.. don't ever let a boy tell you you are stupid for not wanting to.. that one day married or not you will want more than anything to be with someone in that way.. do not do it one moment sooner.. I was not a virgin when i married.. however i never regretted it.. it was my decision.. the young man who took my virginity, made his move and i knew that i wanted to more than anything.. it should have never been somehting he could ahve convinced you to do.. no regrets... move on and find your guy...
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (26 November 2007):
I know how you feel.It took almost 5months for my girlfriend to sleep with me because she wanted us to wait 4 marraige and we only have sex once a month because we live apart and don't want her to feel so bad about it.If you really treasured your virginity so much you should have never have let go of the man who took it away from you (Assuming you were a virgin).But to be honest with you,stop bugging your mind about what happened between you and him.If you still love him,get back with him and plan for your future.If not,move on and don't think you are less valuable because he slept with you.I'm truly sorry that you feel cheated.All the best.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 Hi,
I don't really understand why you are asking this question?
You should be moving on with your life not worrying about the intentions of your ex boyfriend. He is your ex , dwelling on issues you shared in a previous relationship is unhealthy and moreover, it serves no purpose whatsoever.
If you are concerned that you won't take your virginity with you to the next relationship you have just joined about 99.5% of the population. So don't worry about it.
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reader, muffy +, writes (26 November 2007):
 well just ask him.he probably was proposing to you because it was against your beliefs and he didnt want you to feel bad about going against it so he asked you.or maybe he just loves you.but just ask him.i hope i helpedlove and kisses
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