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female
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36-40,
*oxievixen
writes:My boyfriend broke up with me last year september but he was still on my blackberry messenger till december when I deleted him. We made no contact after the break up even till now. He was seen at places he wouldn't go ordinarily unless I force him to. (Places he knows he might bump into me). He even saw my sister and went to introduce himself to her as his name and said nothing about me (my sis knew his name but met him once, didn't really know him). All that happened december, couldn't take it anymore, just had to delete him from my blackkberry messenger. On his birthday, I sent him a message which he ignored. I don't know why but I still miss him. He broke up with because we had an argument and I asked him to grow up. He said I do not respect him and I have no reason to say such because he's achieved so much in life. I'm not sure if he really liked me because thats not enough reason to end a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): "He said I do not respect him . . . I'm not sure if he really liked me because thats not enough reason to end a relationship.'
Look on the bright side: there are plenty of guys out there willing to go out of their way to not respect you, any one of whom would be thrilled to have a "relationship" with a chick who thinks lack of respect is not a reason to end a relationship.
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reader, foxievixen +, writes (10 February 2012):
foxievixen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't see it as disrespect. A guy have to beg for reacting when he does something wrong. I was upset, he kkept asking what was wrong cos I told him I didn't want to talk about it, he said to me that my attitude stinks and I lack manners. That he is only asking because he cares. That only escalated my anger, I just had to tell him to grow up. Not like I really want him back,i just think of him sometimes and miss him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 I have to disagree, disrespect is an excellent reason to terminate any relationship !, without mutual respect no relationship is possible.
I agree though that one angry comment uttered out of nerves in the heat of the moment, after one argument, is not enough to qualify as chronic disrespect. So I guess he had already lost interest and steam and just jumped at the chance that you offered him to call it quits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): It is unlikely that he finished with you due to one argument and comment. I suspect he was looking for a way out. Of course you are taking a while to get over him, if you really care for someone you can not just switch off your emotions. Curiosity has maybe led him to places you might go - I'd not read anything into that. He did not respond to your birthday greeting, so draw a line. When you finally put him in your past you will be free to look forward.
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