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writes:My ex boyfriend is fifteen and I'm fourteen.we were dating for around three months before we broke it off, but we had other 'flings' prior to that. Needless to say, I fell for him long ago, and I never got back up.My ex lives about two hours away from where I live, but in mid November, we rekindled our love for one another and he ran away to my home town in early January and stayed basically the whole month.January was the one of the most amazing months of my life, and one of the most stressful too. My ex had always said how he wanted a baby with me. I had always disagreed and said we were too young, but I was so scared to loose him, that I almost felt that a baby would keep us together, if that makes sense.In short, we had unprotected sex three times, but prior to that, always used a condom. Whenever we would fight, he would say things to me, 'if your pregnant, don't bother keeping it, it's probably not mine anyways' Typical for a fifteen year old boy, I know.But our arguements never lasted long and he always said sorry and how he didn't mean it, and how he wanted a baby with me, and that he would move to my home town and get a job if I ever were.He always acted as if he seriously wanted a baby. I thought it was very un usual behavior because usually it's vise versia. When he left my home town back to his home town, I took a pregnancy test, and the test showed I was not pregnant, when I broke the bad news to him, he simply said, 'well we will have to try again, when i see you next'The next day we broke up.This really makes me wish I had been pregnant, because maybe the outcome would of been different.I really love him and he always acted as if he loved me. He asked my mom if he could marry me and always told my older brother, how much he loved me and he never wanted us to break up. Ever since the break up, it's been a whirlwind. It's been basically the worst break up of my life. We have said every rude possible thing to eachother in the book, but yet I can't get him out of my head..I don't know how to let go, I feel so attached.Did he leave me, because I wasn't pregnant?
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reader, glam231  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 do you realize what a problem it would of been if you got pregnant you still have a hole life ahead of you i am pregnant rite now I'm 16 not that much order then you I'm giving the baby up for adoption just remember stay young for as long as possible
YOU DO NOT WANT TO GET PREGNANT
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): You are hurting now, but I hope you will realize what a blessing - yes, I said, and meant, a BLESSING - that you did not get pregnant!Victoria is right: no matter what they say, boys of that age are mainly interested in sex and sex only. They are driven by their hormones, and that's natural for teenage boys.BUT you are far, far too young to get yourself saddled with a baby to raise with no help from the father! Just think: if that had happened, the main burden of raising the child would have been on your parents' shoulders. Is that fair to them, having already spent years bringing you and your brother up? (Even if they would love a grandchild).For you: a very limited opportunity to finish your schooling, get a good job, and do more growing up and living your life. That's what it would mean. At least twenty or more years of not having much of a social life with your friends, or the freedom to take trips, etc. Instead, you'd be having to worry about your baby's care and pediatrician bills, his/her schooling and so many other issues (cost of diapers, baby food, and on and on.)No, you deserve the opportunity to live out the next years making the most of your opportunities, and then eventually, perhaps, to meet a young man who will like, respect and love you for who you are, and maybe want to marry you and raise a child WITH you and provide for his family!This is why I'm telling you its a blessing in disguise!Forget about this boy, go on with your life, and don't look back!!!
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reader, VictoriaJK +, writes (18 February 2009):
He was 15. 15 year old boys don't have children on their minds. They basically are still children themselves.
Put it this way....had you turned out to have been pregnant he would not have stayed with you to help you out and you would have ended in the same position you are in now only you'd have a baby...probably not be in school...and have no money...not to mention no life. Think about how many people out there who are old enough to be emotionally ready to have kids and then the father leaves them to raise the child on their own. So if that can happen to someone who is 25 then think about how much greater the chances of you being left alone at 15 are.
Find a guy you can trust and loves you for who you are. Don't let any guy pressure you to do anything you don't want. They are never worth it and you'll end up being hurt and blaming yourself. It's not your fault that this guy was a jerk.
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